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Yes, I was terrified, but I was also having a mental breakdown. I called my mom sobbing and she was actually the one who told me to quit. I was lucky that she was around because I leaned on her for about two months.

If you can, look for a job, even if it's gig work, before quitting. I know it sucks, but finding a job will be your new activity. In the mean time, switch to the bare minimum. Take longer breaks, use sick time, etc. Don't burn any bridges. Spend time making a really nice resume/cover letter. Maybe even see if you can use some work resources before you tell them you're out.

If you can't stand it a second longer, I would sit down and see what you have and how long you can last. Finding a job without a residence (in the US anyway) is difficult, so I would not do anything that would leave you homeless. Let people around you know if you have such people. Tell your friends, parents, etc., so they know that you may be needing support. Do not tell anyone from work until you're ready to go. Make a budget. Make one for if you have literally no money coming in so you can see the worse case scenario and have that be your starting point. You may even want to look around for food banks and so forth, especially churches during this time of year. It may not be everyday, but they do dinners more often in the winter. Write them down or save them somewhere that odes not require internet/service.

Good luck. I wish you you happiness.

I just one day said fuck it and gave notice with no plan. I burnt out to the point I was probably getting fired if I stuck around much longer. Besides, If I stayed I was going to quit life instead.

It was a miserable month or 2 of draning my savings finding a new job and I had to take a small pay cut once I did. It was worth it alone for the better work environment.

Line something up if you can, but get out before it gets worse for you.

Well yeah, that's why some people stay in toxic jobs unfortunately.

Yes but you can get money in many different ways so that's nice.

I had savings. don't know if I would have quit otherwise

Do the math. See how rational the fear is. Whatever the result, admit you're afraid and decide if you also want to be brave and act despite the fear. Make a plan. Start working on it. Hopefully things are better on the other side, but either way that fear will pass.

Fear is a natural part of human life. Often useful, but also often not. But as long as you can manage to act despite your fear, it won't harm you.

Ok, cortisol and stress exist, but you have bigger things to worry about.

Answer based on European standard where worker have some basic rights

• Not happy in the job : do the bare minimum while looking for something else guarantees that pay keeps coming, worst-case they fire-you giving you a severance pay (not necessarily big if you're new in the company) and keeping your right to unemployment (which in general are lost when you quit).

• Toxic environment impacting mental health : Go to your doctor and take sick-leaves, and please do it before being in full burn out, then come back to previous point

• Very toxic environment, like harassment : Talk with a lawyer or an union representative you may have a case to sue the company, and even quit on the spot while keeping severance pay and unemployment rights, but you may-need a legal advise for it

When a job is toxic, I send off a job application for someplace else every evening. It makes the job I have bearable cause I feel like I'm already gone but the toxic boss still thinks they have power over me. Gives me a chuckle.

Every time I left a job to find something better, I doubled my salary as well.

The requirement for a steady paycheque is what keeps everyone working in terrible conditions. I'm lucky enough that I've always had a lot in savings and it has come in handy a few times. Twice I've walked off a job and never went back after failing to negotiate proper working conditions with the boss. Both times I burned through about $10,000 in savings while searching for a new job. Almost nobody has that much saved up. If they did, terrible bosses would lose employees on the regular.

Everyone else is right. Try to line something new up first. But I was once in the position of quitting without something lined up, and the decider for me was that if I didn't quit, I was likely to actually take my own life. It's a matter of perspective at that point, and clearly, surviving was the better option.

Always be looking for a new job, you never know when a new boss arrives and makes it horrible.

I call it "the fear". Being unemployed or underemployed or having the risk of no income fills me with it.

If you need the money then start looking for jobs now, and quit when you've got something.

I’ve left two jobs because they were toxic. I always had something else lined up beforehand though.

Don't quit, slowdown, make them fire you, collect unemployment and get a better job

Toxic jobs really take a toll on your health, especially if you feel trapped in them. Looking for a new job is really a full time job on itself, it can be hard to do so while already working a full time job. If you feel your job is toxic you should start looking for something new right away - whether you've given notice or not. I've ended up in the hospital twice from the toll toxic jobs that I felt trapped in took on me. Another thing you can consider is diversifying your income. Ie, a "side hustle". If you have more than one income stream you won't be quite as trapped. You also will have something to help buffer the transition between your real jobs.

I quit jobs on the spot in the past back when I was working minimum wage jobs but the only job that I have ever quit without a backup plan was my first big boy job post college.

I worked there for 3 years and I kept getting overlooked for promotions even though I was the number one or number two for Farmer every single month.

It was a contract job and nobody could tell me why I was not getting pay raises or promotions.

One day it just snapped and I was like all right I'm going to quit and I put in my two weeks notice. I told my wife at the time about it and she asked me what am I going to do for money and I said I don't know, I guess I will work multiple jobs until I land on my feet and so I had this plan to work two or three full-time minimum wage jobs if need be to keep money coming in while my job search was going on.

Then, a friend of mine told me he had turned down a job offer for a local college and asked me if I wanted to put my hat in the ring and I said yes and I got the job.

It paid what I should have been making at the job I was at with additional responsibilities commensure it to my skill on top of that I ended up working there for the next 3 years.

I tried to have something else lined up each time, but tbh the financial hit from quitting a job where I was overworked was not nearly as bad as how I felt after my job each day. If you have some skills, offer to do oddjobs. Offer to detail friend's cars, mow lawns, and pump up the quantity of applications.

I was not scared at all, because it was the very normal thing for me to find a new and better paying job first.

But I was lucky because that asshole boss did rarely actually show up and make my life miserable. He was too busy with making so many others miserable, too.

Toxic jobs drain your life, even when you leave work you're worried about work, worried about getting fired from the toxic job...unless you can scrape together a small amount of money saved. If you're sitting at home spending what little extra you have trying to distract yourself from thinking about work recognize that that cycle will NEVER END. Make it your mission to save every damn penny you can until you have a small amount of savings.

When you have that money, you'll notice that you're not quite as worried about being fired because you know you'll be able to pay your rent/mortgage next money, you'll have food on the table, and you'll be able to cover the bare minimum of costs to live. The situation has now changed dramatically because you could quit tomorrow if you needed to, and you'll be okay next month.

Working the toxic job has now stopped being a necessity, and now its a choice you make. You choose to be there. You have the power now. You can choose to quit and be gone if you absolutely need to and you're not going to be homeless. Now you work the toxic job not for them, but for yourself. You use that job, as toxic as it is, to get what you need out of it to raise yourself to the next level of what you need to go elsewhere. You're also not trying to avoid thinking about work because you're not scared of it. You have some mental capacity back and can start asking yourself what you want to do next, what you need to do that, and how to get those things accomplished. Is it more school? A certification of some kind? A tool needed for your trade? Experience? Maybe you can get that experience at your toxic employer. Volunteer for what the work is that would give you the experience. You're going to make mistakes in this new work. Make your mistakes there at the toxic employer. Gain the knowledge you need, then start looking elsewhere all.

Find your new/better employer, and make your escape.

Definitely recommend looking while you still have a job like others have said. I will say, I’ve left one extremely toxic workplace in my life and I actually ended up making more money at a place that is better for my mental health. So it can definitely work out that way

I think this really depends on how you quit. If you do it on an impulse, that's gonna really roll the dice, but if you already have another job lined up and you know the financial hit can be dampened by savings or another way, you might feel a bit safer.

I just heard that my contract can't be renewed and it runs out in March, so I'll have too look for something. I have enough time and I already took care of everything else so I don't have to panic anymore, but the anxiety will be there until I secured another job I'm happy with, and I just gotta deal with that.

My current job is not toxic but it does keep me on my toes and one of my bosses I can't get along with; he is always suspicious of me and I can't really deal with that. I just wanna do my job and not appeal to people lol.

it's best when you look for a job while you still have the old one. however, in my region there's mandatory unemployment ensurance that will pay enough to keep you afloat for a few months between jobs

He works hard for the money.

So hard for the money.

He works hard for the money, so you better fire the subordinate employee

Nope. Because I practice healthy financial habits.