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[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 78 points 1 week ago (14 children)
[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah nothing to be proud of but I can't discount how powerful this one is, now that I'm "woke" to it.

Like I have worked for people for years and just not known they were racist or sexist, only for them to let it slip. And then you see behind the mask.

Realising why there are no people of colour in my office, or women with any kind of power. Realising I would not have this job if I was not a white man.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 28 points 1 week ago (4 children)

As a queer person, it feels even weirder. Like I'm a spy and my cover could be blown at any moment.

[–] cmbabul@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Even as a straight I kinda feel that way sometimes, all theses assholes keep telling on themselves to me. It’s also depressing how many of them there are

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The number of times I've been "accused" of being gay just because I don't have a problem with homo couples. Sometime in the 200Xs I stopped correcting people and went with "so what if I am gay" which added a real satisfying record scratch moment to arguments.

Let them believe I'm gay if they want, it's none of their fucking business, and they should be aware there are queer folk in stealth mode literally in every aspect of their lives.

[–] cmbabul@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I also like to act like I have no clue what the punchline of the racist\sexist\homophobic\hateful joke they are making is, having them explain it out loud gets em really awkward

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 10 points 1 week ago

Yes! Weaponized naivety is a powerful tool.

[–] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I feel that. I've got a very serious redneck thing going on. I hunt, fish, dress like I just got off work at the ranch (that's true sometimes), and raise a lot of hell. I know why they think I'm one of them. It's depressing some days because it's almost like people can't wait to say fucked up shit as soon as they meet me.

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[–] 1984@lemmy.today 9 points 1 week ago

That's nothing compared to good looks. Opens literally all doors in life. Secret cheat code.

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[–] Libb@jlai.lu 40 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I never felt the need to compare myself to others. aka, I'm competing with no one but myself.

I consider that a huge advantage, but who knows maybe I'm wrong.

[–] mapleseedfall@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago

Def is a huge advantage! Once you stop caring about others you can properly improve your self. A lot of people never does.

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[–] lukstru@lemmy.world 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

White, male privilege and loving parents that supported me in all ways when needed. Seriously, life has been almost on peaceful mode, definitely easy mode.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

loving parents that supported me in all ways when needed.

This is the component that I was missing. I have the white male privilege, but I've always had split parents and 2 stepfathers that were always dicks. I had to move out at 18. My friend had the exact opposite situation where he could stay at home as long as he needed to and he spent his time studying towards a computer science degree. I always had to worry about moving and paying rent so I never pursued anything "difficult" or time consuming as I never knew when I'd have to move again so I'm now just a worthless, single, factory worker schmuck living in someone's garage and my friend is happily married working from home making major money from a well known major corporation.

We couldn't possibly have more different outcomes unless our skin color were also different.

[–] papalonian@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

I'm sorry you got a rough rub, man. I'm heading in a similar direction (moved out at 17, now late 20s working a dead end job to barely afford bills and halfway trying to go to school) and yeah, shits depressing, especially when you have friends that had similar interests and skills as you that were able to make something out of them (my friend who's floor I slept on the last year of highschool is now a literal rocket scientist).

Just remember, we're never truly worthless! So long as we keep clocking in every day, we have immense value to our employers. And what more could a person ask for.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 26 points 1 week ago (1 children)

College educated parents. Education and early career is so much easier to navigate with parents who know the ropes and have a network.

[–] mapleseedfall@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

a lot of my peers underestimate how much their parents can help them in their career.

[–] Kevo@lemmy.world 25 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm easily satisfied with life. I have a pretty good job and make pretty good money, good friends, and I have a beautiful wife, and that's all I need. I'm not the ambitious type who needs to keep making more and more money. I don't need the fanciest car or designer clothes. I don't want to be famous, and I don't have anything to prove to strangers. That makes it much easier to be happy, I think.

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Things I didn't choose or earn? Taller than the average woman in my country. Both parents were smart as hell, university professors. Dad who thought women had every right and ability to do any job they wanted, we weren't raised differently based on sex.

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[–] Thebular@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm engaged to my best friend, my future in laws are cool as hell, both my parents are alive and well, and my brothers and I get along really well. I've also got the cutest little nephew and hearing him laugh always makes my day. I might not make a ton of money, but I've got a damn good family and couldn't be more thankful for them

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 9 points 1 week ago

A solid, stable support system is a much bigger advantage than people give it credit for.

Congratulations on your pending marriage!

[–] Berttheduck@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm a white man living in the UK that's about as close to life on easy mode as you can get. I learned quite young to not care about what other people thought of me which has been very useful.

[–] mapleseedfall@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

Truly. I think many does not realize the advantages of being a white guy in a 1st world coutry. This advantage is especially useful when traveling abroad.

[–] Battle_Masker@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My dad was a union electrician. His medical benefits literally saved my life. You've probably heard how expensive it is to treat type 1 diabetes, well most everything I needed was covered by his benefits, and I did have to deal with a copay at the beginning of the year, but I didn't have anything denied.

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[–] ptz@dubvee.org 15 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I'm practically invisible. Now that I've settled into it and don't really desire/crave attention, it's nice to just fade into the background.

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[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I still have one working hand, and I can walk.

I seem to be pretty good at English, which is definitely a leg up on billions of people.

I’m actively protected, respected, and cared for by my insular community.

I’m skilled with a microphone and can make whole audiences cackle.

These advantages are enough that I needed to be nerfed in some incredibly heinous ways, and yet I still have such an advantage that I’m usually first- or second-ban in the draft.

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[–] BarrelAgedBoredom@lemm.ee 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

White man, slightly balanced out by neurodivergence and coming from generational poverty. Outside of that I have a very patient and supportive wife that I'm eternally grateful for. She's the best

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[–] sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago

I came from an upper middle class family have 2 great parents, and have wonderful extended family near by.

[–] Zikeji@programming.dev 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I used to have a fair bit of imposter syndrome but now that I've been working with a proper team I've come too accept I have an aptitude for code and logic in general, alongside a fairly good abstract memory.

I'm not the best by any stretch of the imagination, but I'm a little more competent than the average software engineer, enough that it gets noticed.

I also got lucky and scored a job at 17 in the field (with no nepotism involved), not a great one but enough to look good on my resume, and have been working in the industry for just over a decade with no college.

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[–] Acamon@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

I've had lots of problems in life (late diagnosed neurodiversity), walked out of jobs, changed careers, gone back to uni three times, and had a series of mental breakdowns. But despite all that, because I had a caring family, I knew that the worst that could happen is I'd have to move back in with my parents, which might be. A bit humiliating but would be easy, comfortable and safe.

This security allowed me to spend two decades fucking up until I got the right diagnosis, medication and a satisfying professional career. I'm extremely conscious that if I'd not had love and support I'd have ended up an unemployed alcoholic, or dead. I have so much respect for people fighting through life on hard mode, but I'm also so glad I happened to get the lucky draw.

Similarly, being a normal looking white guy is an amazing superpower. Although "invisible disabilities" absolutely have their own challenges, the fact that my problems aren't easily spotted means that despite being repeatedly terrible at a wide variety of jobs, and a general screw up, I have gotten every job I've interviewed for, often massively beyond my actual skills and expertise. And it's not just the external appearance, the confidence I grew up with from being white, male, straight passing, and middle class, has meant that people just believe stuff when I say it, and take me seriously even if I don't really know much about whatever we're discussing.

Obviously there's some small amount of individual traits and whole lot of luck (you can still lose a game in easy mode, and sadly I know folks who have) but it so obvious I'm playing with a stacked deck compared with most of the world, that it boggles my mind that people try and deny their 'privilege'.

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I was born in People's Republic of China, so I understand Cantonese, Mandarin, can read many simplified characters, and some traditional characters. Not much tho, I think I only know like up to Grade 1-2 proficiency. But if I go relearn it and perfect it, I could potentially be a translator/interpretor or a diplomat. But nah, I'm too lazy, I'l just stick with English cuz I'm too lazy to learn more Chinese, and also I'm not planning on ever stepping foot in CCP territory again.

But if y'all need some translation, and google translate doesn't work, you can always @ me. 😉

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[–] Maiq@lemy.lol 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] Allero@lemmy.today 10 points 1 week ago

I have relatively high intelligence, have a job that allows me to work at my own pace and combine it with study and other activities, I have good friends and a supportive, caring, active and housewifely partner, my mother is alive and well.

Generally, a good set for a fulfilling life :)

[–] djsoren19@yiffit.net 10 points 1 week ago

I'm white and can pass as a straight man if I try hard enough.

Though I'm disadvantaged in a lot of ways, I have a really good job with a solid team and a fantastic wage structure. It's also union and wfh. Super lucky and grateful.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 9 points 1 week ago

It's a good attitude to have, to focus on what you have.

I read a book about a holocaust survivor and how little life was worth in the camps. Now I feel genuinely grateful for a warm bed and no wars around here.

[–] dovahking@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (3 children)
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[–] xylogx@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

When I was in grade school we had a self-directed math program called Individually Prescribed Instruction or IPI. In the program you would take a pre-test and based on the results do a set of exercises. Then you took a post-test to close out that section. What I realized is that since the exercises are self directed we had unsupervised access to the exercises and the solutions. When given the pre-tests I would look up examples in the exercises with the solutions to figure out how to do the questions. I then proceeded to speed run the whole IPI curriculum. This gave me a leg up in math. I proceeded to get a 100% on my Algebra regents and just generally crush it in math. Ended up getting a uni degree in math and physics. This opened many doors for me later in life.

[–] Ixoid@lemm.ee 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I have excellent time sense. I could set a 15min timer on the kitchen microwave, then go into another room. Often I'll get up and walk into the kitchen just as the timer beeps. Useful, but hard to monetise. Oh, and white privilege.

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[–] 474D@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] Sunny@slrpnk.net 7 points 1 week ago (6 children)

Born and raised in Scandinavia, life here is amazing in almost all aspects.

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[–] OceanSoap@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 week ago

I can walk.

[–] squid_slime@lemm.ee 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My therapist said I'm persistent.. Guess that could be mine.

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[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago (5 children)

I have thick thighs and a good understanding of Linux :3

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[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 week ago

Eventually I get to die and my suffering will end.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 7 points 1 week ago

I’m not from a native english speaking country, but my parents taught us siblings english first before we learned the local language. There were some minor issues (i.e. other kids won’t talk/play with us because we couldn’t converse well), but it paid off in the long run because we are generally more fluent than the average person from our country, and we have neutral accents when speaking english. It helped a lot working in the corporate world.

[–] Magister@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] Atlas_@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

Wicked smaht. And generally good genes - no family illnesses or anything.

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