RBWells

Who decides what is "real" though, if it's not the person in the body? So someone says they are a boy, but the MRI says nope, you are wrong, you are a girl through and through.

What if I am a cis woman and have a mind that works more like a guy's mind? But if I still am comfortable and happy in my woman's body, who cares how my mind works? Nobody, that's who. Why would trans people not get the same consideration?

I just don't think it makes sense to use tech to invalidate someone's experience, and it's just not anyone's business if someone wants a different body. My sister got big fake boobs, nobody said "well, you don't have a body that matches the boobs" they just gave her what she asked for and paid for. Why can't a man do that if he wants? Why does he have to prove he's a woman first?

None of that makes sense to me.

Women's pants are also bad about that. I was underweight from stress during my breakup and most women's tall sizes start at a "6" which is like a men's 32, more or less. I was not that big at that point. And to make matters worse, many of the allegedly tall pants just have a longer inseam and are not longer in the rise, as though all difference in height is just legs.

Gap makes tall men's and women's pants, they actually do make them tall not just longer inseam. I am not tall enough for their tall pants but get the best fit by buying tall and hemming them, because standard fit (to the extent it even exists in women's clothing) is wedgie city, not long enough. They also make tall shorts, which is amazing,they actually fit.

A drama free department, yes! We have that where I am. The whole company? That seems unlikely. But accounting and IT are calm and not dramatic at my workplace.

I am a lady and I ferment plenty of stuff, both drinks and foods. But don't like beer, so I don't make it. The only guy I know who makes beer is a white guy, so my experience mirrors yours, but it's also true that there are minority run commercial breweries and distilleries so I'm sure there is home brewing going on too.

Mad crazy, or mad angry?

I have Moissy ring and it's gorgeous. I'd have been pissed to get something that cost more. It's really a pretty stone, and durable as fuck.

You will need an idea of her taste in jewelry, ask her literally to send you pictures of what she likes. I think a solitaire is best and that is way more affordable if it's not diamond, or at least that was true when we were getting engaged.

As you should? You can't think like that. In a religious sense, sure. If you have two coats you stole one from the poor, to paraphrase Dorothea Parker.

But in real life, it's more like the airplane advice, put on your air mask first then help others with theirs. In an absolute sense you will be able to give more if you take care of yourself. If you only have $2 and give someone $1 of it you are an angel, but if you can make more and feel comfortable giving $10 that is more helpful to someone.

You didn't create this problem, you just live in it, and you can't single handedly fix it. Take care of yourself and give as you can, and speak out when you can.

Online? No. It comes off as snarky.

In real life, and emails? All the time. Please and thank you.

What I like to do with kids that age is cartwheels. One hand, two hands, one foot, two feet.

Good time to introduce them to interesting foods too.

Spitting watermelon seeds really far is also fun.

The macarena.

I have lived on the streets too. I just don't feel like I can possibly help everyone, if that makes sense. And would question the motive of someone I don't know trying to get into my house.

It's a very complicated problem. Some people are homeless from simple poverty and can climb out with some help, but we know these guys (it was always guys) who just don't fit into society and can't have a regular job or hustle enough to have stuff, but can get by without much, there doesn't seem to be room in this country (USA) for them anymore. Like they have been illegal -ized.

My mom used to say I had the taste of a teenage boy because I like sci fi and fantasy and comics so much.

LOTR trilogy is my favorite.

Pride and Prejudice with Keira Knightly is one we can watch over and over, as are Hot Fuzz and Into the Spiderverse. Those 3 are so good too but my favorite still is the Lord of the Rings trilogy.

We bring food sometimes to the local homeless guy but he doesn't seem to want anything else.

This answer for me would really depend on a lot of factors. I don't want a homeless roommate who won't leave and can't work, don't want a mentally unstable person in the house with my daughters. So random guy probably not. I'd bring him food and a gallon of iced water and say I could not let him in. If it was the guy we know from under the bridge, and husband home, probably would let him shower and give him some of husband's clothes to wear, sure.

But we HAVE had homeless people stay with us for a time if we knew them, quite a few times. Wandering guys who just didn't live anywhere. Couch surfing people.