I'm a millennial and I've always referred to my partner as such. Boyfriend and girlfriend always seemed so weirdly juvenile, and it's interesting to leave things ambiguous for people who are immediately expecting to categorise you.
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I don't know about anyone else, but I started doing it because I want to destroy Western culture.
Funnily enough, due to Western culture marriage has become a business so 'partner' is more accurate.
Online dating is essentially a startup pitch. You spend weeks reviewing 'applications,' then finally meet for an in-person 'investor meeting' to discuss potential 'synergies.' If things go well, you can initiate a merger, but if the market shifts—aka they’re not into your favorite TV shows—you’ll quietly dissolve the partnership and move on to the next opportunity.
Have you tried holding hands and kissing? I hear that causes hurricanes.
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I started in order to advance the deep state woke agenda and get paid by Soros, personally.
Thank you for your service, partner!
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I do it for two reasons: partly because it's fuck all business to anyone else (within reason) what the status of my relationship is.
Mainly though, because it generally messes with folk because they don't understand what it means, and feel compelled to ask silly questions about it.
Mainly though, because it generally messes with folk because they don't understand what it means, and feel compelled to ask silly questions about it.
Yeah, this is my favourite part of it.
I call my wife, "Comrade."
That's Our wife, Comrade
Well, a married household is basically a commune.
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Mine and I are getting married this week and we were both excited to see "spouse" as an option on the documents.
We are now spouse and spouse.
We are now spouse and spouse.
As a couple you are spice
This is by far the best thing we've heard on this and both love it!
We well cherish this for our whole marriage lol
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I mean I get it, there's an age at which referring to someone as your boyfriend or girlfriend feels a little lame.
Honestly I use partner or spouse mostly because I can't remember if fiance or fiancee is correct and it won't stick in my head properly. Calling her my girlfriend makes her feel "demoted" or something. (I'm sure that's just her joking around. Partner doesn't dictate what stage or if government paperwork has been filed.
I can't remember if fiance or fiancee is correct
Fiancé is male, fiancée is female.
Do you remember the alt key for the accented e or do you type it some other way?
Dedicated key on an azerty keyboard on tablet/laptop, or switching back to French setting on the phone. If weren't French I woudn't bother searching for it every time.
I just stick with finance. /s
Nobody asked, but as a gay man I exclusively refer to my husband as "my husband." I never liked the term "partner." We didn't start a business together, and we're not cops. "Life partner" bothers me less, but it still seems stilted
n+1 here, but I'm a bi woman married to a straight man and I've started using partner more recently because there's a lot of baggage in the history of power dynamics associated with the titles of husband and wife.
I also hope it makes people think for a minute if they need to ask me clarifying questions about my marriage status or sexuality/how the person I'm married to identifies.
At the same time, I totally understand the impact of not using generic words when it comes to gay marriage, where there was such a long fight to be recognized as husband and husband. So cheers to you and your husband!
Thank you, you've summed up a good clash of feelings around these terms with great economy.
When I (male) use the term wife to describe my relationship, I don't want to contribute to this feeling that I'm pulling for the default in an exclusionary kind of way. Like contributing to this cultured of presumed heteronormativity.
Better in my case to leave a little unsaid, so as to make room for other kinds of relationships.
I miss when my gay friends all called their partners "lovers".
As in literally if they were introducing their boyfriend, it was never "this is my boyfriend Chris" it was "this is Chris, my lover."
No idea if it was just a local thing but it was just so, well, lovely.
My partner said the exact same thing. I've always preferred "partner" - it just sounds nicer, like more respectful, egalitarian. We're mixed gender so it's wife/husband, which just sounds so old-fashioned
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What else are you supposed to say after "Howdy"?
There are no other legitimate options.
neighbor, stranger, doody...
...howdy cowdy?
This is utterly ridiculous and borderline nonsensical.
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Folks. It’s Big Tex approved. Come at me, bro. /s
I agree with this a lot. Boyfriend or girlfriend is the person you are romantically attached to. Partner is a MUCH stronger word, it implies teamwork and shared purpose; the understanding that you have each other's backs.
There are also plenty of people who are married for whom the word partner does not apply. It's sad.
I think a lot of people reject the title 'partner' because for a very long time before gay marriage was a thing, there was only 'civil partnerships' or 'civil unions' and thus 'partner' was the only accurate term, 'wife' or 'husband' couldn't apply as they weren't legally married. So they see 'partner' as a sort of 'almost as good' runner up.
My parents have always referred to each other as their partner, so that's what I've always done. It's just normal.
Since moving to the US people get so weird about it. I had a boss's boss ask me why I call my wife my partner in a skip-level. I was so confused I just stared at her and said "What?" It was like being ask why I think oranges are citrus fruit.
I'm an old guy. Since we (my "partner and I) are not married but have lived together for years (no common law here,) husband/wife doesn't apply. I don't know any other word to use other than partner, but it is still difficult for me to naturally say. Not sure why. Funnier (at our age) would be boyfriend and girlfriend. Uh ... no.
A family friend in a similar spot just referred to each other as "life partners". Any others it was just "partner" or "significant other".
My spouse and I just use SO (esso) for significant other. I like it more than partner as it is explicitly a romantic or at least very important relationship.
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It's because of Borat.
I never knew this was considered wierd anywhere.
Back in the day it did sound weird. Partner was usually a business relationship, not a romantic one, and it was almost exclusively used by the LGBT crowd.
More gender neutral terms are good, but they're still going to sound odd to folks who spent 40+ years hearing the terms used in a different way. That's just how progress goes, older folks eventually will either get used to it, or be the weird relative ignored at holidays.
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This is super common in most other English speaking countries and has been for years. Well before the culture wars.
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