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I keep hearing about how you shouldn't laugh over your own jokes but when I watch a video or listen to a podcast, I find it much more authentic and likable when they laugh over their own jokes in a conversation. You know, vibes.

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[–] 1ns1p1d@lemm.ee 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

My coworker has that kind of sense of humor where he always says the obvious joke you're hoping nobody will make. Then he laughs, and for some reason, everyone else does.

Also, whenever he helps someone and they thank him, he says, "That will be 10 dollars," and then laughs about his joke.

The reason i hate it is this: He's a lazy, quiet-quitting asshole who everyone likes. I, on the other hand, work my butt off. I appreciate a witty, clever sense of humor. However, I'm socially awkward, so nobody likes me!

[–] Default_Defect@midwest.social 1 points 37 minutes ago (1 children)

Did we change what quiet quitting means again? Doing his job and nothing more is a bad thing now?

[–] 1ns1p1d@lemm.ee 1 points 24 seconds ago

Doing the least amount possible to keep a job puts pressure on coworkers to take up the slack. I work in an ER, not an office. When someone is in the bathroom texting, more than they are out on the floor helping its shitty, yes.

[–] Hammocks4All@lemmy.ml 1 points 11 hours ago

To lol or not to lol

Fuck that. You should or shouldn't do whatever you want. I laugh at my own jokes all the time, even when I am alone, or haven't said the joke out loud. People find it much more off-putting if you just randomly start laughing.

Anyone who has a problem with someone laughing at their own jokes either has trauma or is an asshole not worth anyone's time.

[–] M137@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

You're telling the joke because you find it funny, it's so fucking weird that people seem to not understand that.

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 78 points 1 day ago (2 children)

People who say you shouldn't laugh at your own jokes are either sad, sad people or have never told a funny joke or story ever.

There's jokes and stories I've been saying for 20 years that still make me laugh as I'm saying it.

Be a man, laugh at your own jokes.

[–] Wrufieotnak 11 points 1 day ago

Followed your advice, now my husband complains I'm not the woman he married anymore.

[–] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Laughing sounds like one of them "emotions" that aren't sposed to exist for real manly men, so says the teevee

/- Cleetus

[–] AbouBenAdhem@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

It depends on the joke: most are funny regardless, but for some jokes a straight/deadpan delivery is part of the humor.

[–] Iapar 10 points 1 day ago

I am indifferent to it because i think it is just logical that people laugh about their own jokes. They have a thought that makes them laugh so they want to share it.

Why should I share a joke that doesn't make me laught?

Oh, laugh if you feel like laughing!

Life is too short to worry about what should be done in which vibe.

[–] qyron@sopuli.xyz 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If someone is about to tell me a joke and start laughing mid first sentence it's a sign that is either going to be very good or so bad it will become good.

Let them laugh!

[–] TheRaven@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 day ago

This right here is the best answer in my opinion. Regardless of the story, the teller is just so into it that they can’t stop laughing. You’re probably going to end up laughing with them.

[–] ReanuKeeves@lemm.ee 25 points 1 day ago

As long as they're not obnoxiously loud and saying something that's actually funny, I think it's completely normal. People usually say funny things that they find funny so it would be natural for them to laugh a little.

[–] Hikermick@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

"You're really cracking yourself up aren't you?"

I used to have a college professor who would always laugh at his own jokes. Always. His class only laughed maybe half the time. I didn't mind much because he was a cool guy in general.

[–] whydudothatdrcrane@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

OK with laughing over your own joke, but if you burst out and are not even able to finish uttering it, then I think this is a bit childish.

I feel like "don't laugh at your own jokes" is a piece of ancient wisdom from the entertainment industry.

Like, if you're a performer and you're laughing so hard that you can't get the punchline out, then it prevents people from actually hearing the joke.

When you consider that performers in traditional media have a limited time slot to work in, then taking a break to laugh could be considered a waste or unprofessional.

I don't think that long-format content has the same problem. If you're making an online video or a podcast then you're not limited by time. Authenticity is more important than fitting into a five minute set

[–] NeoToasty@kbin.melroy.org 7 points 1 day ago

If it takes them several attempts to tell me something and they're laughing all the way through it, I assume it's going to be bad or underwhelming.

I've personally heard some of the best ones were when someone keeps themselves steadied enough to tell what a funny story is or what a joke is but then break into laughter towards the end. Just enough to finish the bit.

[–] donuts@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

I think I depends on the laugh for me. Like I don't mind a haha this is a joke kind of laugh. But a haha omg I am the funniest person alive type of laugh would be met with some ridicule.

Hard to I explain the difference in text, but hopefully you get the gist!

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

If you don't laugh at your own joke, then it's probably not funny.

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I cannot not laugh over my own jokes

[–] Juliana@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I guess it's not funny πŸ˜…

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Or any joke at all, really

I'm constantly laughing at something and people don't like it :(

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 3 points 1 day ago

Meh, matrix brainwashing. Be yourself.

Most times I can tell if the laughter is fake or not, and I happened to be in situations when I can't contain myself to tell the story straigh without laughing my ass off. It depends.

Humor is difficult.

It's tough when it's actually a bad joke or they are telling it badly, but they find it funny.

If it's a genuinely funny situation / retelling, both of you laughing about the same thing and also about how the person in question is struggling to breathe because they have to laugh so much, that's funny.

But it really really really depends.

[–] Juliana@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 day ago

I don't see anything wrong laughing at your own jokes while you're cracking your audience because comedy is an expression off ur feelings 🀣

[–] Gieselbrecht 2 points 1 day ago

Whoever says to not laugh about their own jokes has never seen el Risitas. RIP.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I hate when people laugh at my jokes, let alone someone laughs at their own. Laughter is such a horrible noise.

Who hurt you?

[–] chaosCruiser@futurology.today 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Laughter is also highly contagious, so you better watch out. There have been reports of entire office floors and classrooms succumbing to uncontrollable fits of giggles, causing productivity rates to plummet. In some cases, the laughter epidemic has spread across neighborhoods, turning typically stoic morning commutes into a cacophony of chuckles and snorts. Health authorities are advising to limit exposure to particularly humorous individuals and to steer clear of gatherings where a particularly irrisponsible individual stands on stage aiming to infect everyone in the audience with a severe case of laughter.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Maybe for some but I’ve never laughed due to others laughing. I can’t recall the last time I laughed recently. I tend to avoid it because it’s such an uncomfortable feeling. Like you’ve got hiccups and coughing at the same time. It’s easy to avoid though because it’s not my reaction to things others laugh at.

[–] chaosCruiser@futurology.today 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sounds truly exceptional. Other people don’t consider it uncomfortable at all.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] chaosCruiser@futurology.today 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Have you considered making an AMA? There are so many questions already brewing.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Why? I don’t think there would be much interest or much to say

[–] chaosCruiser@futurology.today 1 points 22 hours ago

I thought enjoying it was as common as being able to breathe air or drink water. Apparently not. Maybe there are lots of people like this, and we never knew.

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The first time I thought you were joking, now I am not sure anymore if you could be a really sad person instead.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Even if he is, don't judge people before you walk in their shoes.

Why would you intentionally post a hurtful comment to someone like this, and specially if it's a sad person?

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Because it’s difficult for others to imagine that people are not 100% like them. Difference is considered a threat and most people’s base instinct is to respond with something that can hurt the other person because the other persons existence is a challenge to their worldview.

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

A threat? How would that be? Not to mention that essentially nobody is like me, so others being different is the absolute norm, the opposite of hard to imagine.

I say that could be sad because not laughing is like nit eating tasty stuff. Not feeling nice things. A whole dimension of positive stuff simply missing. But specifically about the topic of feeling and lack of laughing is, more or less, sadness.

Let alone that you are actively against laughing of others, and that absolutely is sad to me.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago

I don't know if it's most people, do you think so? From my own life, there has been almost only nice people in real life. Social media though is very different and people act like it's not a person on the other side of this screen.

[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My daughter is the only one laughing at her "jokes."

[–] Juliana@sopuli.xyz 0 points 1 day ago

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