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[–] duckman@lemm.ee 65 points 1 month ago (4 children)
[–] joelfromaus@aussie.zone 22 points 1 month ago

The factory must grow!

[–] overload@sopuli.xyz 11 points 1 month ago

Same probably. I've got a young child now so Factorio is not a responsible hobby to pick up again.

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[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 57 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I've been unemployed for the last few months. I'm single, no kids. I've had more of these 24 hrs of uninterrupted free time than I'd care for. Honestly, sounds wild, but I hate it now.

[–] Chozo@fedia.io 26 points 1 month ago

I've been in that situation. At first it's kinda nice being able to sleep in without worry for a little bit. But after a while it really starts to drive you crazy just not having anything to do with your time. That restlessness quickly turns into depression.

[–] shapesandstuff 22 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I was out for ~6 months a while back. I put a schedule on my calendar, so every day had some structure. Get up at 8 or 9, breakfast, practice an instrument, game time, lunch, write applications, gym, dinner.

Did the same through the lockdowns and some structure really helps.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Agreed. I was doing pretty well the first 2 months or so, but I crashed into a bit of a delayed depressive episode over it all the last month. I'll get sick of my own moping and wrangle myself again soon.

[–] shapesandstuff 6 points 1 month ago

Yeah you'll get it :)
and if you don't, ask for help. Most people can relate anyway.

[–] bpt11@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I’ve been unemployed for around six months, that’s actually part of why I asked is to see what other people do with so much free time.

[–] DoubleChad@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago

I had this problem back in the great recession and joined habitat for humanity. Met some weirdos, was pretty good.

[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 3 points 1 month ago

New skills? I spend my free time contributing to FOSS projects to pick up new things, or learning CAD, or soldering, on and on. Always been pretty good at filling my time, just need to learn the relaxing part.

[–] darthsid@lemmy.world 34 points 1 month ago
[–] JustEnoughDucks@feddit.nl 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What would I want to do?

  • Cut down the 2 larger trees and 10 mini trees (originally hedges) that we marked for removal

  • deep clean the house

  • climb in the crawlspace and drill the pipe brackets I need to

  • finally go weightlifting after months of no time or willpower

  • play saxophone

  • meditate

  • go for a long run

  • play with my dog and go adventuring for an hour or 2

  • cook a new meal I haven't tried before

  • watch a movie with my girlfriend

  • take an edible

  • play some games with the boys

What would I likely do?

  • sleep

  • mow the grass and rake leaves

  • play rimworld

  • watch Castle with my girlfriend

  • eat leftovers

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[–] NatakuNox@lemmy.world 22 points 1 month ago
[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 22 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Wondering what to do because decision paralysis.

Assuming I was in the mood, have all the energy and mental focus I want I'd think about how to fix my home setup.

Bonus points if I would understand everything perfectly and didnt have a need to learn all intricacies beforehand

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago

most honest answer, amen to that

[–] fartsparkles@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] metaStatic@kbin.earth 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

yep. anyone that doesn't say recuperate already has enough free time to do whatever it is they're responding to this thread with.

[–] naeap@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 month ago

I'm always making big plans on my business trips about all the stuff I'll do, when I'm back home
Back home I usually just crash for 2-5 days and can't do much anyway - and then work starts again to stress enough, because of all the postponing, to get me up again

Not really a fun cycle...

Id do nothing for as long as I could, only way for me to fight the burnout. Most weekends I can just about fit enough nothing time to soothe the tism enough get my necessary self and house upkeep chores done. Every time I get a 3 day weekend, I find myself productive as hell on the third day. Otherwise I need to catch up on my nothing.

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Start with a solid 10 hours of uninterrupted sleep! Then make myself a cup of coffee and finish it while it's still hot while finishing my book! Then off to the library to get the next in the series and I pick up my dad for breakfast at a diner. Go home, and have a hot bath and start the next book. An afternoon quickie with my husband. Now I go to my sister's house where our other sisters already are to make a puzzle. All the husbands and kids arrive but since my day is free and uninterrupted my parents are in charge of my baby while I cuddle my husband and we all play Jackbox until midnight .

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago

Your day is almost my perfect day! The sleep in. The diner - not doing a quickie with your guy though. I'm sure your dad is lovely, too.

I need a sleep-in and a diner, actually. I miss Al's diner in Jersey City.

[–] Fleppensteijn@feddit.nl 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Just lost my job so I have this time. I want to travel a bit later, but until I can leave, I'm doing nothing at all. Years of fulltime work just killed off all social life, any motivation. Now that I'm finally free, I feel so dead inside that I just want to do absolutely nothing for a while.

[–] beercupcake@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 month ago

Been there done that! 10years in company, we got downsized, got thrown away like a trash. Took months to deal with emotions and set myself to do anything. In the end I realized that I was relying on job to be an anchor in my life that everything was revolving around. Losing that anchor forced me to search for a new one, more reliable and something that I can control and that makes me better.
I started with cleaning my house, then deep cleaning shelves and such, then basement, etc. Got interested in working out, and started doing pushups and such. I learned that I was missing that - creating my own schedule, having goals of my own. It was scary at first, ngl. Trying to do small steps, very small sometimes, that improves your situation bit by bit is what I found helps me with being overwhelmed.

Wish you all the best, I hope you recover soon and find better job soon :)

Probably just set up my github page. I've been having some trouble with it.

[–] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 8 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I’d probably lay on my sofa, mindlessly scrolling, beating myself up for not being more productive. It’s the ADHD way and there’s nothing you can do about it.

[–] eatthecake@lemmy.world 2 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

This but without the ADHD to blame it on.

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[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

24 hours is not enough time to recover from the burnout I get from my 3 part time jobs.

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[–] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

Take two edibles and enjoy a quiet afternoon.

[–] PeroBasta@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Reading the comments and I feel very VERY lucky because i have 24h free basically every weekend.

[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 month ago

I'd take my partner somewhere nice I think. Haven't had the time recently

[–] cmrss2@aussie.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I happen to have a 50% exam tomorrow, that would be awesome to have. copium

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Heh, I actually get those sometimes. I'm disabled, so the only real barrier to complete freedom is family, and I can sneak in a few days a year where I'm alone all day, and sometimes over night.

For real, the only thing I'd do that I can't do when everyone is home is crank the fuck out of the music. My wife gets migraines easy, and my kid seems to be following suit unfortunately. So really turning it up until I can feel the bass in my guts is a rare treat.

But you can only do that for so long before the ears get tired. So the rest of the time would likely be reading without interruptions.

I'm pretty fucking easy to please lol.

I sometimes house sit for my best friend, and that's essentially what I do there, just not that loud with the music because the pets don't like it past a certain point.

Sometimes I'll pop in a movie that isn't to the liking of the family instead of music, and enjoy the more immersive sound. Which, I could also watch things they don't enjoy as much with the sound up, but why not have both factors my way?

Mind you, I can do those things with everyone home, but it takes planning and I'll still have interruptions. But doing them always has the risk of causing my wife hours or days of pain and misery, so it's something I prefer to just wait for. Kinda makes it more enjoyable tbh.

[–] Ballissle@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 month ago

As someone who gets fairly frequent migraines (thankfully not chronic), thank you for being considerate of other migraine sufferers.

[–] bpt11@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

If I may ask, what kind of music, what would you read, or what movies?

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago

Hmm, the movie choices are easier. My kid isn't quite ready for Kubrick's more intense movies like a clockwork orange, so that kind of thing.

Reading wise, when I'm reading to just chill and enjoy escapism, I gravitate to fantasy and urban fantasy. Right now I'm going back through the Laurell K Hamilton stuff. Kinda trashy for the most part, but there's some nice light reading in there. I'm flipping over to Stephen King when I get tired of the trashy parts of Hamilton's series, which have fantasy, but close enough in some cases. But I'll also reread my favorite Vonnegut and Palahniuk books too, when I'm wanting comfy reading rather than new stuff.

Music though? Damn. I'd probably start with metal since that's the genre I most enjoy loud. Hit up my playlist with my absolute favorites, then take a break and do some deeper cuts. If/when I came back, it would probably be either bluegrass or old school hip-hop. Again, that's because I like feeling the music as much as hearing it. If I still had time and a break for the ears to relax, over to classical for the same reason; I always start with tocatta and fugue in D minor with that. There's some superb recordings of it that can shake the fillings out of your teeth with a decent subwoofer.

Gotta take breaks when cranking the volume though. Ear fatigue is a thing, and actual damage is possible too

[–] superkret 4 points 1 month ago

probably drink :(

[–] Ballissle@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Finally finish my first baldurs gate 3 playthrough. And spend the rest of the time achievement hunting by going back through my save states.

[–] RicoBerto@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They said 24 hours not 80, lol.

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[–] pedz@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago

I go camping for an additional night. I already planned to bike and camp to the closest national park one last time before winter, this weekend, but I would gladly add one night to the trip and go right now instead of tomorrow.

[–] Shanedino@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago
[–] DoubleChad@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago

Do some work, go to the gym, cook dinner, plan a fun weekend event, go to bed early. I fear I am fully institutionalized at this point.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

REST and catch up on some of the things that I need to catch up on. Honestly, I should do that this weekend!

[–] A7thStone@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Sleeping, but I'm in my 28th 13hr shift in the last month and a half.

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

I'd have to try and get myself to stop procrastinating and get my English course work done, while failing and doing pretty much anything else, like finally watching season 4 of Wakfu.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Probably mostly hang out with my wife. Also spend some time on personal projects

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

Catch up on schoolwork. If I truly finished everything and have nothing to do I will probably rock climb, hike, exercise a bit. Haven't done those things in a while

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 3 points 1 month ago

Sleep in, a leisurely breakfast, a drive out and maybe a hike to see the leaves changing, some chill time listening to music in my comfy chair, a nap that may turn into canoodling depending on how we're both feeling, toodle around with some hobby projects, out to pub trivia or live music with friends. Same sort of thing I do most weekends, minus any bills or housework.

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