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I don’t know about your friend, but someone may decide against dating apps if they’re looking for less superficial and more meaningful connections.
I also don’t think you should look down on her anime choices. People like what they like, they might not care if someone else considers it bad or someone else prefers “classics”.
Those are some quality analogies.
For whats it's worth, I'm also trans, and I don't use dating apps. Everyone I met that I got involved with sexually or romantically has been either through making friends on discord or meeting friends of friends
Dating apps have a lot of shitty incentives, I won't go into the details right now, but there's a lot to dislike about them
There's other places to meet people than work or clubs
The discords I'm in barely even contains gamers. Most of them are local trans spaces. Would it surprise you if I told you that I barely play video games with the people I've met on discord, and mostly spend time with them by meeting up in-person?
Dating apps have shitty incentives because they have a profit motive, and they don't earn money from you finding people, but from keeping you on the app and maybe even making you desperate. Although hookup apps still work fine I suppose
Then there's the whole problem of how dating apps work with swiping and superficial judging of people
Well, fair, it's gonna differ location to location. Though I want to specify that I don't live in the US, I live in Oslo, Norway
Well, hobbies are another way to meet someone. Also via friends or family.
I think people should do whatever makes sense to them, theres no one best way. I was just sharing a different perspective, it’s not even necessarily my own 🤷♀️
Regarding what people like, yeah I guess the nicer way is to just accept that some people will have “bad” taste. Like a lot of people use MacOS instead of taking the time to learn and use Linux. Sometimes, under some circumstances there is an objectively better choice. Otherwise it’s all just what makes sense to the person at the time at hand.