For whats it's worth, I'm also trans, and I don't use dating apps. Everyone I met that I got involved with sexually or romantically has been either through making friends on discord or meeting friends of friends

Dating apps have a lot of shitty incentives, I won't go into the details right now, but there's a lot to dislike about them

There's other places to meet people than work or clubs

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The discords I'm in barely even contains gamers. Most of them are local trans spaces. Would it surprise you if I told you that I barely play video games with the people I've met on discord, and mostly spend time with them by meeting up in-person?

Dating apps have shitty incentives because they have a profit motive, and they don't earn money from you finding people, but from keeping you on the app and maybe even making you desperate. Although hookup apps still work fine I suppose

Then there's the whole problem of how dating apps work with swiping and superficial judging of people