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For the males:
Could you imagine being in a relationship with a woman who takes on the “masculine role,” i.e. taking you out, taking initiative, being the breadwinner, protecting you, etc?
Asking because I’ll forever be searching for a man who wants this type of relationship. I don’t know. Reversed roles are sexy, sue me.
I promise a lot of men want this.
At least secretly, but it's considered socially unacceptable, unfortunately.
Yes. There would certainly be some friction points, but I'd much rather take care of my home and family instead of working.
Yes and it sounds pretty good to me, although I'd draw the line at pegging 🫠
Absolutely. My partner and I have traded those roles more than once.
I'm okay with this as long as the attitude is loving and not demeaning. But I'd probably need her to be okay with it being a level playing field, and her being fine with me leading when I feel I need to.
I was once in a relationship with a woman who didn't know how to hand off the reigns. It was tiring. But I'd love to date someone who is confident enough to switch roles whenever each other needs to.
To an extent this is my marriage. My wife and I both own our own companies. Mine is much more established and therefore offers me some leeway on my in office time (I'm an accountant). This means I often spend more time taking care of our children. I also cook, make grocery store trips, clean (to an extent), etc. She still helps around the house which isn't ad much as it used to be. But I see her working her ass off so I don't complain.
As for protecting me....no. I'm a pretty large dude. 6'3" 250. So unfortunately when things go bump in the night ya boi gets to go investigate.
For the menfolks; how would you feel if your SO announced they were trans and began transition? Would you stay together? Or just become friends or something?
As a lady I don't know how I'd feel, I think the sexual part would be a huge loss for me. I likes the G-spot orgasms.
Yeah there's one that I've wondered for a while now. Awhile back, I found out that women don't have prostates but they can still feel pleasure from that hole. How can they feel pleasure from that hole if they don't have a prostate?
Yes. I'm a guy, and I would love to get a girl's take on this.
Do you think Fermi's "Great Filter" is not necessarily that a civilization destroys itself, but that it discovers a way to destroy the Universe?
Like, maybe the fabric of our reality is more fragile than we realize, and the reason we don't see "aliens" is that the universe doesn't get old enough for intelligent life to meet.
Of course, this assumes we are in a statistically "average" Universe, since presumably there could be a Universe in which intelligent life co-evolves within the same solar system.
Personally, I think you're really close to the answer but with an important distinction. The great filter is an hyper aggressive species that does not want to deal with a potential cold war with a different species with technology as advanced as their own. They already launched their doomsday armageddon weapon at us after detecting our existence, probably from something like our farthest satille, Voyager 1.
It could take generations for the bomb heading to our sun or stealth asteroid heading directly for us to actually connect. But it's arguably in their best interest not to even chance us becoming militarily on par with them.
Statistically there is alien life out there somewhere, and whichever one got to interplanetary weapons first would have everything to lose by allowing an equal to exist.
My question for you is, why do you want a female perspective on this? Idk, doesn't seem like something that gender would effect.
No offense intended, but do you identify as male? I can't even be having this conversation if you do.
😂
I do not. Heck, the thread is about asking the other sex, I wouldn't have answered if I was a dude.
Phew okay. In that case, I do agree that a hyper-aggressive species could be the Filter, though it's worth noting that our radio signals have actually reached further than our furthest probe, so I would go off that when doing round-trip destruction calculations. I love Mass Effect's take on this idea (though I haven't played 3).
As for why I asked women: Mostly because I thought the non-sequitur was funny.
I've always felt like a lot of the assumptions in Fermi's Great Filter feels off. Like, the way we talk about "intelligent life" feels iffy, both in astrophysics and other fields. I'm not great at articulating this, but if you're one for video essays, Dr Fatima Abdurrahman recently made a video that captured much of what I'd struggled to say on this. (https://youtu.be/_tw0aqmnmaw)
Ladies, I'm partially physically disabled, stuck laying down 80% of the time, and rarely ever leave a home. Still in my 30's, but actually fit and don't look half bad by most accounts. However, I'll never get better physically. If there is someone out there for everyone, who is out there for me? Can you convince me to believe you, as I'm totally resigned to solitude.
I'm a lesbian and my partner is also partially disabled. She manages her conditions but as far as we know, it's as good as it will get. (I have chronic issues too but I am typically mobile.)
We like to game together. We watch movies together. She also games with her friends and I go out and do other more physically demanding activities with my own friends. We like to discover new food and talk about politics.
We found that our sense of humor and morality aligns well and we enjoy each other's company. That and the fact that she was independent drew me to her.
Good luck out there.
I'm a woman and this is pretty close to my entire life. After suffering a dog attack I can't really walk anymore and it's a struggle to do a lot of basic household tasks. I too was also pretty skeptical I would ever find a relationship, but it's been over two years with my girlfriend and she is wonderfully supportive. We divide up house work based around what I can do and is always checking in if I'm feeling up to doing something.
All I'm saying is you can't give up hope. Women exist who are okay with our situations, you'll find her sooner or later. :)
Male here. Is it true that sometimes farts unexpectedly head north and get lost in the caverns of the bubblegum forest?
Bubblegum forest
This cracked me up
I've heard these referred to as "exiting through the gift shop"
Lost is a bit strong, it goes exploring and is politely but firmly removed by the kegal Captains.
Yes, this is true.
Damn. My condolences.
What did you think the Willy Wonka factory was based on? That liquid brown river wasn't chocolate.....
I'm a guy.
Question: on several intimate occasions with more than a few partners I have notice partners will cup my pecks..
It makes me feel self-conscious and would like to know why some of you cup pecks? 🫠
*Pecs, unless you're referring to a traditional measure of pickled peppers.
Lol I like the latter more
As a bisexual: it's the same reason I'd want to touch a partner's boobs: because chest sexy
Yes.
All my questions can't really be answered by just asking another person. I wanna know what it feels like to have their plumbing. Words aren't enough though. I want to experience it. At least for a day.
