Thanks for the kindness and good ideas. I have made a list of things I can do when it gets hard. Have managed to eat. Now shower and bed. Night
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Pleasant dreams β
Highlight of my week.
The stray kitten squeaked at me lol
You exist. π»
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Today's zoo pic
Had to see the meerkats again! Old mate chillin' in the sun π
I haven't bought timtams in a while..
Jesus Christ what a bloody joke!
The only thing generous there is the spacing between timtams
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Labor won the senate π
this is a good dream come true
now we just need labor to have the gonads to bring in taxes for the companies that are taking our resources
They wonβt. They are in the pockets of oil and gas interests as much as liberals. Theyβll move the needle a bit, but not enough.
No majority though, the Greens will have a lot of power. Which is a good thing.
What are some small low energy things you do to make you feel connected to the world and a bit of joy? I need some little sparks this week to claw back from this burnout.
wall of text for my own benefit while I figure out my feelings. Mental health warning
I have had a really flat day. The constant work and stress lately is really taking its toll. I am losing whole days to just sleeping (when I do stop). I am struggling with basics like putting clothes away and eating regularly and well. When I drink I over drink because I am too tired and I am desperate for connection and joy. But all that fuels a vicious cycle where today I slept on the floor in the sun instead of going outside, or cooking food for the week.
I feel like, with my mental health and even external stuff like the election that it's all just one big stressful climb and all that's happening is I am not falling further. I feel so far away from a functional adult right now.
I am ranting this because I am resisting making dinner because that will just mess up the kitchen again. I feel down and nauseous and need to wash my hair desperately.
I will persist. I have lived with depression forever and I know I will get through. The really black thoughts from this morning have eased at least. I just want to feel like I am not white knuckling my way through life.
Box of plain shapes and a block of cheddar sliced almost transparently thin.
Look at the moon
Say hi to strangers
Cuddle cat if cat wishes to cuddle
Write in my journal
sing a stupid, stupid song about nonsense that I make up on the spot
Go for a long walk
But the most important thing of all, is to take some time to rest.
Try to be kind to yourself :)
I think different things work for different people. One of the things I do is write lists. Things I need to do that day. Mark them off. Add more. It's never ending but it stops them from going around in my head all day like a washing machine.
Sometimes I watch mindless tv.
I take one day at a time. Some days are good. Some days aren't.
Hugs π«
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One small change I made maybe six months ago was switching my car radio to ABC Classic FM. Every time I'm in the car I get gentle classical music. No ads, no scary news, the presenters aren't annoying. I sometimes put it on at home now too for small moments of calm.
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Obviously YMMV on all of these:
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Talk to neighbourhood cats if you can manage outside
No silence, YouTube or whatever music all waking hours
Cook something utterly ridiculously complicated and unnecessary
Make stock!
Buy flowers
Lego
ToME
Light candles preferably beeswax (other happy smell as applicable)
Watch your childhood cartoons
Everyone has already written some great stuff here so I've little to add other than that I try to focus on getting into some nature, enjoy some sensory stimulation like fragrances especially natural ones, try to force some fruit into myself (I'm terrible with fruit eating at certain times of the year and it affects my moods more than I'd like). I also get into tea drinking in a big way as it gives me a lot of calm, simple pleasure. We are often our own hardest taskmasters and it helps me to remember something a psych said to me years ago when I was running myself ragged trying my guts out to please everyone and do everything perfectly: "Sometimes good enough is good enough." Hugs mate.
Firstly, a nice long hot shower could be what you need if you're up to it.
I think anything involving getting in touch with your senses could be good. I'm struggling with a bout of anhedonia right now. Something I've done for the past year and a half is write something good that happened each day on a sticky note.
Attempting to enjoy whatever sun there is.
Being outside and spending time in nature.
Putting on a movie / TV show, especially feel-good ones
Watching comedy on YouTube
Remind yourself that your thoughts are just thoughts.
Don't worry about the clothes :)
I hope you feel better soon
This will sound very cliched but something I found that helped me was to go outside and lie on the grass, or just sit in nature (even if itβs only your backyard or a small patch of grass). It was suggested to me after I got some really bad news and it did seem to help, at least a little. I hope youβre feeling better and more on top of things soon, and am sending hugs.
Hugs.
Make things easy for yourself.
If you have goals you can work at them bit by bit. That is good too.
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I'm wandering around King's Park, being gently rained on. It's good for my soul
Need to make a drink but I'm under a sleeping cat. Halp
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Thank you Chef, you saved my life
How the hell did bob Katter get reelected?! Way to reenforce stereotypes queensland.
Had to call over the self-checkout assistant, so they could check the video of me putting the catalogue in my bag, before I could go back to checking out my groceries for them.
As of 2 days ago I'm now an uncle. Bro and SIL had a bubs.
Will be interesting to see how the dynamic plays out from here.
Ol' boy bankrolled and organised the whole thing (IVF + the rest) as he was in an adjacent field. Ol' boy and girl went in to see her and bubs yesterday and SIL didn't let them see it lol.
It's her bubs and she has every right to dictate what happens but having the p's mention that 5 (!) times within the space of an hour I'm finding it odd. I don't know what the etiquette is really. There are no issues b/w them and her or bro so I'm not sure what to make of it.
There's a trend atm among new mums exerting their control over things like visitors. On one hand, I sort of understand protecting your space as a new mum, been there, done that and felt all the feels that go with it. But some are taking it to the extreme and don't realise that they are alienating their support networks and then complain that nobody has supported them.
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This lady sounds like a manipulative control freak, and will use her baby as a tool to control your brother and your parents further, if not drive a bigger wedge between them.
Beware.
I think you're absolutely right.
Gonna keep my distance a bit heh.
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So, what do the voters of Dickson want? Aquatic centre? High speed rail? Street party with bottomless bar? Give them whatever they want. They've done a service to this country.
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My poor credit card is completely maxed out, and once it is paid off tomorrow I have more stuff to go on it. It rarely gets to the limit, but a single month with a dental implant, bond payment and a month's rent in advance on top of the normal spending certainly adds up!
Having my van means I will be able to pick up the queen size bed frame and bedside tables I've decided on, so I'll take that and whatever other odds and ends I can fit in so I can drop off at the new place when I pick up the keys on Friday. Then I have lots of measurements to take so I can plan some furniture layouts and buy a few more things. I wasn't really planning on buying as much stuff as I am, but I've realised a lot of the stuff I have is getting pretty old, and a lot of it was also "temporary" cheap stuff that has hung around too long and isn't really worth moving. Things like the cheap Kmart desk I've been using as a dressing table, which was broken and re-glued during my last move and probably won't survive another!
Edit to clarify: I'm not borrowing to afford my spending, I do have the money in another account, I just use the cards for buyer protection & points. Using credit cards to finance anything outside of a major (probably life threatening) emergency is a Very Bad Thing and will lead you to ruin.
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I am stoked to see Dutton lose his seat, but I canβt help but see this as a massive loss for australia. An effective opposition is critical for democracy. And it appears like the greens have been totally wiped out too.
Am also fairly frustrated by the analysis so far. Coulda seen this coming: bloke with the personality of a rock and policies from the mirror universe fails to win voter confidence. Who coulda seen that coming? Oh wait, anyone with half a brain!
Imo it's not a loss for Australia when the only opposition is batshit insane and dangerous. They needed a harsh slap on the face. They need to be told in no uncertain terms that this Trump-lite bullshit is NOT welcome, it is not to be entertained even in a "but muh both sides!" debate. The Libs entirely deserve this bollocking.
I do really hope they can become an effective opposition again (and the greens too). But it'll require some big changes. If the libs do another moronic pivot even further right like they did after the last election and the loss at state level in Vic, then seriously, that's not even remotely Labor or the Australian public's fault. I'd love to see the libs die and some alternative parties come up instead.
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You get to obtain the skills/attributes of a gold medal Olympian. Which sport are you choosing?
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Melbcat didnβt eat her (medicated) breakfast this morning and so was feeling bad by the afternoon. I gave her a half dose to tide her over but sheβs still not feeling great :(
I think next time she gets ten or twenty minutes to eat the breakfast then if not it goes in the bin and sheβs medicated by oral syringe. If that happens twice we go back to brekkie and meds being separate.
May the fourth be with you..
Just finished up this one a moment ago. Been distracted with too many things so itβs slow going for me.
Enjoy!
This is why I hate other guitarists, from the "guitarpedals" reddit. Context is the dude is using a digital effects unit (like the one I grabbed a little while ago) instead of analog guitar pedals:
"How does thing sound so good and make me feel so dirty at the same time? I imagine itβs the same feeling you get hiring a $2k per hour escort."
I hate these people so, so fucking much. It's cringe as fuck. Fuck right off.
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