I'm an autistic woman, and I've found great success in leaning into my autistic tendencies. By that, I mean just being blunt and upfront. One of my favourites is that if I've got chemistry with someone I don't expect to see again, before I bid them farewell, I'll give them a note with my number on and say something like "I had a great time hanging out with you tonight, would you like to go on a date with me sometime?" And then I hand them my number and scuttle off like a crab because I can only put on a cool face for so long before I crack under the anxiety.

[–] MapleEngineer@lemmy.world 0 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Aspie man here, it's harder for us to do that. I have a friend who I gave the standard, "Hi, my name is MapleEngineer and I have Asperger's. That means..." speech to when I thought she was hinting. She said, "Ok, you don't like hints?" "No." "Ok. I've always found you attractive and have fantasized about sucking your cock. We should get together." We did. It was awesome.

Life would be so by easier if the normies didn't muddy the waters so much with their hints and clues.

[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 0 points 5 months ago (1 children)

If you get a “hint” wrong you could end up having a meeting with HR, being told to “fuck off, creep”, or some other negative result. So men might see what could be a hint, but the price of getting it wrong is too high for many reasons. So you either stop looking for them or just stop acting on anything that isn’t direct.

It’s also kinda the woman placing the responsibility and the work on the guy for making the “real” moves in an encounter or relationship. He needs to pursue her and pay attention, not the other way around.

[–] Diplomjodler@feddit.de 0 points 5 months ago

Very well put.