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[Meta] The community has spoken, we are now moving to !casualconversation@lemm.ee (lemmy.world)
submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Bl4ze@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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If you weren't aware about the discussion, have a look at the other pinned thread.

Here is the link to the new community: !casualconversation@lemm.ee

I already created a migration post there, feel free to comment under it.

I will lock this community from tomorrow, sorry about the apple crusher post, I will redirect that person to the new community.

New posts created on the LW community will be deleted from this moment, as they should be created on the lemm.ee community

Feel free to reach out if you have any question

PS: for the 19 people who wanted to keep the community here on LW, feel free to reach out to me if you want to reopen it in a few weeks, we can discuss it.

Edit: I realized that communities can be locked and people can still comment on posts, so I locked it now.

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[Meta] Could we move the community to another instance to ease the load on Lemmy.world? (lemmy.world)
submitted 3 months ago by Bl4ze@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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Tl:dr: would you be okay to migrate the community to another instance for better performance? The change for you would just be one click to subscribe to the new community on the new instance.

Hello everyone,

As you may have noticed, there have recently been issues with instances located far geographically (i.e. Australia) to stay synced with LW since they switched to 0.19.3.

What is the issue?

Since Lemmy version 0.19, which LW updated to recently, management of requests between server has changed, potentially leading to some instances losing synchronization, especially if there is a lot of physical distance between them.

Among the impacted instances:

  • reddthat.com
  • aussie.zone
  • lemmy.nz
  • lemdro.id

Some other instances were affected in the past, such as lemmy.blahaj.zone (see their dedicated post https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/9871961)

A graph can be seen here, the number represent activities (votes, comments, posts) that are queued to be send to the instances. The number was growing because LW can not process the activities fast enough

More details can be found here:

There was also another thread detailing the centralization of active communities on LW: https://lemmy.world/post/13059576

Having most the active communities of Lemmy on one single instance can create this kind of scaling issues, which prevents some instances to stay synchronized and interact with the rest of the Fediverse. At the time of this post, Reddthat, but also Lemmy.nz, Lemdro.id and Aussie.zone are between 400.000 and 2 millions actions behind LW (https://phiresky.github.io/lemmy-federation-state/site?domain=lemmy.world).

Please note that while there are a lot of actions that are pending from LW to some servers, most of the federation between servers still happens instantly. LW is in a kind of unique position due to how many active communities and members they host.

The Lemmy code will probably be reworked to solve this issue in the future, but there is still actions we can take now to mitigate the issue.

What can we do to help with this matter? Migrate!

We discussed it within the moderation team, and we wanted to suggest you, our members, to move the community to Lemm.ee, as they are the second biggest instance, but are still able to process all actions under 1 minute on average:

That would at least solve the federation issue for our community, and members from those instances would be able to interact with it. Long term fix would require a rework of the Lemmy codebase, but that's out of scope of our proposal.

This is how we would proceed:

  • asking community for feedback (that's where we are now).
  • if the community agrees, go to the next steps
  • create another post to redirect people to the new community (probably locking the previous community temporarily to ensure that people would go to the new one) on the new instance
  • create a few posts on the new instances to ensure that the migration has been completed

What would that change for you?

If we indeed decide to migrate, you would just have to subscribe to the new community, and that would be it.

Your choice

Would you be okay with this? Feel free to share your feedback on the comments. For people who just want do give their feedback without having to comment, I will add two comments with potential opinions to choose from.

We will keep the thread open for at least 5 days (so until next Wednesday), with a potential extension if needed.

Thank you for reading everything, and see you in the comments.

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What is your current wallpaper? Where did you find it? (files.catbox.moe)
submitted 4 months ago by Servais@dormi.zone to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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Just found the one linked, I like it but I can't find the high resolution version, so I was curious to see where people get theirs.

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Does anyone think life was better 15 years ago? (lemmy.world)
submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by Grogon@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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So I don't really know how to ask this question because I can't quite explain what I really mean or want to ask.

I am now 30 years old and I couldn't be in a better situation than currently. My job is fun and providing me enough money to live a happy life and pay my own built house (I am a nurse). I have way more free time than lets say even in my childhood. I remember coming home from school and feeling anxiety cause of exams. I remember nursing school, it was hell for me.

Now all I have to do is go to work and when my shift is done I am off and can do whatever I want whenever I want. I don't have to ask parents to drive me somewhere, I have my own money, I have my own house, I can play video games all day... and still, I don't know why but nostalgia is real.

I am not even sure if my feelings are real. I can only give silly examples like coming home from school, logging into world of warcraft with friends and having a blast. But I don't think it was like that. We were all just in skype and everyone was minding their own business in that game. We had good laughs though.

I don't know. My life should be so much better than it was 15 years ago but I miss the 2000s era. It all just felt so different. I remember the hot summers going to the lake with friends.

Now? I don't know. Maybe it is because it seems like I am the only one that has so much "time" and no one really joins anymore. While I have a wife and no kids and most of my friends don't even have a wife yet (so no kids....) they still are somehow busy and don't go to the lake anymore, don't play video games anymore, don't do anything. I actually wonder what they do all day.

Life felt more exciting back then. Maybe because I had goals and now I am "done"? But this should feel good. I am happy that I am "done". House, wife, job. Those were the things I wanted back then and now I am more than happy to have those things.

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Have you ever tried putting a tiny bit of miso paste on your buttered toast? (lemmy.world)
submitted 5 months ago by ickplant@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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It's fucking delicious, that's for sure. A perfect addition of saltiness. And it has to be the tiniest bit, anything more is overpowering.

Am I the only weirdo who enjoys this?

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How cinnamon, nutmeg and ginger became the scents of winter holidays, far from their tropical origins (theconversation.com)
submitted 7 months ago by Blaze@discuss.tchncs.de to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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fuck the manosphere (lemmy.world)
submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by kofe@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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I just want to vent a bit - I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. Old fling that I ran into through some friends that got rekindled, and I was excited that it seemed like more than just casual hookups this time. But there were some yellow flags I ignored that turned out to be red flags, and now I'm feeling frustrated and hurt.

Dude for real dropped the line that men are more "capable" and "logical" on me. That gender studies are "indoctrination." I told him we should probably stop seeing each other if that's really what he thinks. It wouldn't be logical for me to keep seeing someone that thinks lesser of me, now, would it?

I'm grateful to have some guy friends that I turned to after I left, cuz I wanted to go into "fuck all men" mode, but I know it's not true or helpful. Just like there are women out there that have internalized misogyny, there's feminist men, enbies, etc. We're all just people and we're not monoliths beholden to differences in biology. This is just sexist, manosphere bullshit in particular

Anyway. I'm still feeling angry and wanted to put it out there for some support and solidarity. Anyone have a recent win they'd like to share or something?

ETA: Thank you so much for the conversation y'all! I've been trying to keep up but I gotta get some sleep. I'll check in later but hope everyone has a good day. Keep up the empowerment! 💜

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How would you describe your most recent dream in the form of a haiku/tanka/choka (don't be afraid to comment more than once) (lemm.ee)
submitted 8 months ago by shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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Tell me about someone really interesting that you know. (lemmy.world)
submitted 10 months ago by BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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Where are all the Positive, Wholesome Communities gone, and where are all the hugs, where is my wholesome memes, to help me fight, the politics (slrpnk.net)
submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by Kyoyeou@slrpnk.net to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world
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Hey, I've been looking at what I'm subscribed to on Lemmy and it really grim, and not really what I want from a social media. I'm into tech, but the tech subs talk about evil things companies do, a lot of linux meme and programmer humor, and it's all cool and all, piracy talking about how it's bad what certain company do. And when you go in global it's "Amercan Politics" "Elon Musk Bad" "Stealing data", "our world ending"

Recently my brother and I where bored, and I went to show him we moved to lemmy, and said we had memes and all the stuff here. And looking at top memes, it was "complaining about big tech", and "complaining on windows".

And, I miss a bit all I had on Reddit not going to lie.

So is there any active community with some positive things anywhere you'd recommend. I just feel like I'm in a bad angry environment.

I've got:

!wholesome@kbin.social

!wholesomememes@lemmy.ml

!cat@lemmy.world

!rpgmemes@ttrpg.network

!pixelart@lemmy.ml

!photography@lemmy.ml

!cafe@monyet.cc

!houseplants@mander.xyz

Edit: Wow! If you come after, I'd truly, truly invite you to look around in the comments, people here truly changed the way I see Lemmy, its way different now! Way better!