Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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The risk aversion is deviation from their standard plan and from possible mortality as a side effect of bica. Yes, I 'm aware that it's an exceedingly low chance. They are still stuck in the early 2000's for treatment plans.
The risk of heart issues is actually the spiro, which appears to be happening but they still aren't responding to the request. I was over 190bpm during a distance run this weekend, and that's considered the red zone for ages 40 and up. I'm normally around 150 for a tempo run and 50 flat for resting. This is absolutely an anomaly for me.
My doctor happens to be a trans woman. Howewver, she transitioned more than a decade ago and is comparing everything to her experience. I'm not sure if she's bothered keeping up with things. I'm not here to judge, just to get myself in order.
Try as I have, this part has been exceedingly difficult. The only meetups are youth oriented or singles mingles at bars. I'm married, don't drink, and too old for that. There's pride, annually, but this area isn't fantastic for just finding folx at local establishments being themselves. I also happen to work a later shift. It's quite lonely out here.
Spiro also carries mortality risk, a greater but similar risk AFAIK as bica. My liver enzyme levels were elevated on bica, but my endo was not concerned about it, he said they often just stabilize and it's not a reason to stop. I only stopped bica because it didn't act on the CNS and help with my biochemical dysphoria - I was just as miserable from the T in my body with it vs without. (So I did monotherapy instead.)
Your doctors are not sufficiently educated and are putting your life at risk as a result. That's unfortunate, but at least it sounds like you know what to do.
tbh, I don't know that being trans makes a difference, Caitlyn Jenner is trans and that doesn't stop her from being an anti-trans menace on Fox News. You would hope being trans would help, but it sounds like it's actually hurting your care, since she is not educating herself.
I'm in a conservative southern city, but even we have a local pride organization that runs the annual pride event - they had a trans support group that I went to and that's how I got connected. Sometimes it's just a matter of finding the right person to let you in the door, so to speak. Maybe reaching out to the local pride org and asking around to see if any other events you don't know about are happening, or even suggesting hosting a trans event if you ever feel like it.
Either way, it's probably just a matter of persistence and continuing to network - there are trans people where you are, and someone is probably organizing something. If not, you could always try to get a directory going, make a group chat, etc. and start to get people connected. That's more effort, but it's quite valuable to have your local trans community's experiences available to you - it tells you a lot, what places to go to, what places to avoid. Which hair dresser is safe and good, which dentist is safe, etc. - there are so many reasons that network is so important.