ncc21166

joined 2 months ago
[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I realize that everyone's situation is different and you may have valid reasons preventing you from transitioning. That said, you should consider doing it now. I figured it out at 30, and 11 years later I am bitter that I waited to begin. Don't regret the missed years and experiences. Also, I am causing my spouse a lot of grief and self questioning. They constantly ask if they are the reason I didn't do it sooner. They're not at fault, but they will always have that nagging thought in the back of their mind. I realize everyone is in a unique situation and that the timing is very much terrible, but do consider it, at least. Whether you do or not, you're still valid and you matter!

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago

Not directly in your life, but you still need to know that you are valid! Coming from someone who is afraid that I will be hearing more of that in the future, we need to stand together. It's sickening. And it shouldn't be this way.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago

I go for my first HRT consult tomorrow. This hit me right in the feels. Hopefully those start working again after I get new meds

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago

Happy for you! Breaking out of the egg is harder than it feels it should be, but it is so worth doing.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago

I would constantly tell the women to use the men's room before distance running events because it was always empty and their line was down the street. Nobody cares! Why should anyone suffer that when it isn't necessary? Especially for people with conditions like IBS, restroom restrictions just seem like punishment.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The issue with this thinking is that it ignores that elected officials are proposing this legislation at all, usually to whip up support in their voter base. Which means that their voters want it, or they believe they do. Some part of the population wants it to happen, and those people are dangerous to us whether bills like this pass or not. Texas still belongs on a "do not travel" list, even if there are internal enclaves of sanity and compassion within the state.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago

I will add to the other excellent comments here: there are no perfect times. Waiting for everything to align just so will prevent everything from ever happening. Pick a goal and start it. Now. It seems like you took the first step, so congratulations! I'm not bitter about it, but I am an example of what happens when you wait for perfect alignment. You may wake up one day and say "why did I let the last decade go by in a fog instead of taking action" and regret missing some of your best years living as the real you. Don't wait for any conditions, just improve the ones you have as you go.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Well, I finally came out to my spouse after a decade feeling trapped. The support I received was more than I could have ever hoped for from them! And this community seems pretty fantastic. So for once in what feels like forever, this one was a good week. There's always hope and someone who will love you for who you are. You just have to find them! ;{

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Thank you immensely for doing what you do, and for persevering through the difficult parts while doing it. You're exactly the kind of hero we need more of. I'm sorry there are still so many terrible people.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago

As a fellow cat-holder while your spouse trims their claws, Glory to you and your House!

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago (2 children)

You're the second person to recommend them, so I'll definitely consider them if I can't find a local provider. I was just hoping to find a practitioner who knew the area and would be able to also recommend places for other services I (or my spouse! They're part of this journey, too) may need down the line.

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