Thanks! I'm going to need to work hard on this.
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I'm also a few weeks in and not seeing any changes. I am also on a t blocker, though I don't know if it's working yet as my first blood test isn't for another month. It takes time. I feel a little different mentally, but I am physically still a giant hairy man.
My advice is to try and find one person you can absolutely trust and confide in them, if you can. It's better to do this with help than alone. Maybe find a local-ish group that meets up in person and attend if you aren't comfortable with people who know you. I find it odd to think about, but I am more comfortable discussing things with people I have never met but who share in my daily struggles than to talk with someone I know who doesn't.
I'm sorry you had to go through that! I understand the sentiment of keeping it visible but close, which is why a necklace was my first thought as well. I might do that anyway to keep the original close when we get new rings. Thank you!
This is actually really sweet it in a way. I'm glad to know that others are comfortable just being outside of a "norm". We've been together over 20 years and I've had the same ring the whole time, but I preferred to remove it while working. In my line of work, I had the same fears about degloving or electrocution. It's gone the opposite direction for me though, in that it's now so large even the silicone wraparound sizers aren't big enough. I'll take your suggestions into consideration, though. I've always loved plants, and there is a Polynesian cultural practice of wearing flowers like a plumeria on one side of the hair to indicate marital status. Not as practical in the winter, but it's still something I think I'd enjoy.
You and Telorand both suggesting silicone sent me looking. It might be worth grabbing a "his and hers" set so I also have something to wear for now in boymode. I still haven't told anyone but my spouse that I know in person so I need to stay under the radar while the hormones do their thing. This might not be a terrible idea. Thanks!
Thanks! Yes, I think I need to talk to the clinic. 50mg/day of spiro seems far too low for someone my size
Very jealous. I'm also my first week in on Spiro and E (and Finasteride, because boo hair loss) and I feel... Nothing? That said. I got to try out my first real outfit. Turns out I like skirts and shrugs. Even better when the skirt has pockets! I'm glad things are working for you, though. As with everyone on this journey, YMMV. Enjoy it!
It's natural to be afraid of change, but I can tell you from someone in her 40's, it's never too late. Your family will love you for who you are, and your identity is something that YOU know. Life gets better when you can be yourself. Don't do what I did and wait a decade to do something about it. There are people everywhere just like us and we help each other. There are professionals who can help you, and this path has been blazed by many before us. Stay on it, find yourself, and life gets so much better from there. Congratulations, sister!
If it helps you at all, I thought the same thing. I'm in my early 40's, scared to death of what might happen in this political climate, and went through some very rough times in the last few years. I finally said enough last month and told my spouse. They're helping me find clothing and picking out nail polish and going with me to my clinic appointments. Find the right people to support you and you can do anything. You can even be yourself, and it's never too late.
I finally bought a set of my own polish (instead of using my spouse's) and I have a light blue on the outer toes. They're gorgeous! The little things do so much sometimes
Oh dear, I am aware of how expensive it can be. I'm in the US, and on top of being extremely expensive it's just as slow to get specialist appointments. You should still make sure to see a physician and get your blood tests, even if you DIY. We don't want to lose you to complications! I'm sorry to hear about the dog and I hope they pull through. When you're ready, I hope you get the care you deserve!
Whirlwind of a week! Spent it with my in-laws. We ran a race this weekend, and I wore my pride socks in public for the first time. The person in front of me at the starting line was wearing a progress pride flag as a cape, and I said "thank you". My sister-in-law clued in and was asking my spouse what was going on while they ran, so after I set a new PR I came out to her. "Ok, as long as you're happy" was almost immediately followed by the gobsmacked " omg, you must be really upset with things right now". So I guess that's a win. It was nice being in a public place where I didn't constantly hear hateful gibberish and saw people openly being themselves (including employees; those butterfly earrings were gorgeous!) so a good trip in all. My spouse's parents still don't know, though. One week at a time!
On another note, nobody told me voice training was going to be this bad. Yes, I followed the guides and the videos. I also see a professional. The LPR damage is making it very difficult, though!