Lumelore

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Day-to-day voice practice in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You can totally do it! It takes a lot of practice and dedication, and yes, you are going to sound off at first but that's normal.

I suspect the reason your voice didn't sound as feminine as you wanted is because you need to brighten your resonance more. Even with a deep pitch, a bright resonance will make your voice sound noticably more feminine.

The other thing it could be is perhaps your voice was too breathy, because it's not natural sounding and it's an easy mistake to make. I even made that mistake myself when I started out.

Day-to-day voice practice in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Pitch actually doesn't matter too much. Like others in this thread have said, resonance is way more important.

For example, it's actually really difficult for me to talk in my old voice, because I haven't used it in such a long time. While I can get the pitch down if I try hard enough, I can't do the same for my resonance, so my voice still sounds somewhat feminine even when I'm talking in a low pitched voice.

I never practiced for a set amount of time. I'd just do it kind of randomly whenever I felt like it. Usually I would practice at night when I was having trouble sleeping, but I'd sometimes do it while driving as well.

Also random hot tip: Have a word that you can say really well in your feminine voice that can be worked into any sentence, such as um or like, because then you can use it to recalibrate when you feel your feminine voice starting to falter.

how's y'alls experience been lol in c/blender@lemmy.world
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 days ago

Sometimes frustrating, sometimes fun, but it really depends on what I'm doing and if there are any tutorials available. Retopology has never been a good time but I do enjoy messing around with shaders.

Is Google Maps getting worse? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 week ago

Yep. Multiple times I have had Google maps direct me to back employee only entrances instead of the regular entrances. Sometimes it seems like Google doesn't even recognize that the front entrance even exists.

How's your bottom surgery 1+ years later? in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I actually just looked it up and was going to edit my original comment but you already replied! Lol anyways, what I found was this:

Anatomically, penile and scrotal skin have no self-lubricating potential, though penile inversion vaginoplasty may produce some sexually responsive secretory fluid when urethral tissue is incorporated and lubricating genitourinary accessory glands are retained.

From this source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37105933/

How's your bottom surgery 1+ years later? in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago (3 children)

That's interesting. I've only heard from people who got PI that theirs is always dry. I am aware that the shaft can secrete fluids, but I didn't think it could be that much.

How's your bottom surgery 1+ years later? in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Yes, I am referring to multiple different surgeries. The colon one is a sigmoid vaginoplasty. I am also aware that a vaginoplasty can be performed without PI. However there are surgeries that use PI and then use peritoneum to add additional depth.

This link here is to a surgery that uses PI and the peritoneum.

https://journals.lww.com/plasreconsurg/Fulltext/2021/08000/Penile_Inversion_Vaginoplasty_with_Robotically.29.aspx

How's your bottom surgery 1+ years later? in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago (12 children)

Yes, and also the one where they use a piece of the colon, unless I am mistaken, that also uses penile inversion.

How's your bottom surgery 1+ years later? in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago (20 children)

There are multiple ways vaginoplasties are done. One is penile inversion, which results in a dry vaginal canal. Others use penile inversion plus some moist tissue so that the vaginal canal isn't dry. Sometimes this tissue secretes excess fluid and that's what the liners are for.

What's the trick to Menopause? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

Yeah, I forgot that there are different variants better suited for cis women. I'm pretty sure you're correct that she does need something a bit different.

What's the trick to Menopause? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I am a trans woman so I understand how it feels to not have the hormones you want in your body. It's literal hell. You are allowed to have your own feelings, and there's nothing wrong with that. Your wife's mental state is just in the gutter right now and that's why she's lashing out at you.

I'd recommend seeing a professional so she can get prescribed estradiol. That's really the only thing that's going to fix it.

followup: suddenly have a surgery date in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Congratulations! I've been considering getting a vaginoplasty, but I am worried about the maintenance, such as dilating. Do you find it to be a lot of work or cumbersome at all?

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1 Year on HRT! (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

As of a few days ago, I am now 1 year on HRT! I typically don't like posting pictures of myself, but I also wanted to make a transition timeline and share my progress, so here it is lol.

transition-timeline-image

Estrogen is amazing. I finally feel like my body is mine and something that I need and want to take care of. Sometimes, I randomly think about my gender and being a woman and it makes me so happy, but overall I don't really think about my gender as frequently as I used to years ago.

I also started progesterone last month and luckily I am one of the people that respond well to it. My overall mood has significantly improved since I started it, and it also helps me sleep a lot better. I am now waking up early in the morning feeling energized which is something I have not experienced in a very long time lol.

I've also been working on my voice as well. I did make a post here about 6 months ago where I asked for feedback on my voice (which was really breathy and did not sound good). I think I have improved quite a bit since then. I'd really appreciate your feedback on it if you would like to critique it.

My voice training progress (youtube link)

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Blahaj sightings at the Twin Cities pride parade! (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/blahaj@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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First one was in a marching band, second one was in an IKEA float.

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Viva la 196 (Obligatory rule) (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

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Scrolling to the bottom of posts causes NSFW blur to squish. (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

This is easiest done by sorting by Top of 1 hour, so there are only a few posts to scroll past.

When you get all the way to the bottom where there are no more posts to load, try scrolling down.

While you do that, any NSFW image that currently has a blur over it will have the blur squished vertically towards the center, allowing you to see the top and bottom of the image unblurred.

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egg_irl (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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I'm not an egg anymore, but I found this meme I made several years ago when looking through an old hard drive and wanted to put it on Lemmy.

Image description: Top text says "Me: 100% totally cis male." Bottom text says "Also me: A girl with girl stuff and girl hair and girl clothes." The bottom part is actually an image of a Minecraft skin that is posted on Planet Minecraft.

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Can't believe I'm actually posting my feet on the Internet lol (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

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Getting super emotional and depressed on a monthly cycle? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

So for the past few months, usually near the beginning of the month, I will have a few days where I am super depressed and emotional. Today is one of those days. It started off with me waking up crying at 2 am for no reason and I was literally sobbing for 2 hours before I was able to fall back asleep. Then I waking up, I felt super depressed. I have not felt this much depression since I started taking an anti-depresant 5 years ago. I hardly ate anything today and I pretty much just layed around. I tried working out for an hour, and even that couldn't make me happy. I am assuming that this is going to happen again next month, and idk what to do cause it is super debilitating. Asides from these few days, I am very happy otherwise. I have been on hrt for 5 months now, I'm hoping maybe prog will help with it once I'm able to get it. I don't know how to manage it until then since my usual coping mechanism isn't working and I also don't know if prog will even solve it in the first place.

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My mom keeps being weirdly partially supportive? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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CW

Ever since I came out to my mom several years ago, she's been supportive on and off, which I don't really understand why she is just sometimes supportive.

When I first came out to her, she told me she was proud of me, and then minutes later she told me that I would be ugly and never find love. She's never purposely misgendered or deadnamed me though. Although for a while after I came out she was mourning me and acting like I had died and it was really weird and creepy to me at least, but about 2 years after that she told me that she finally sees me as her daughter.

When I had asked her if I could get puberty blockers or estrogen she told me no, which I had asked her that many times. So I decided to save up and finally this year at 20 I got HRT, but then she suddenly decided that she wanted to pay for it and that made me a bit upset because if she was going to pay for it then I could have gotten earlier, but I still appreciate that she is paying for it.

I had asked her if I could get voice training lessons a few years ago she was very adamant about me not doing them. Recently I have decided to do voice training on my own and the other night she complemented my voice and then tonight she told me that I actually sound like an alien and that my masc voice is perfect. We were good for a while and I thought she was done with being unsupportive occasionally but I guess not. I don't really know what I'm feeling rn, I guess disappointment and maybe sadness idk.

This what my voice sounds like rn if you were curious: https://on.soundcloud.com/hsR5W

This link isn't working in some of my lemmy clients for some reason. If it's not working for you you might have to paste it into Firefox.

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Got gendered correctly by a stranger for the first time today! (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Went to get a prescription today (not hrt, a different drug) and this guy tried to cut the line and the pharmacist said "sir, she is in line next" and it made me sooo happy. (And then I was sad that I had to use my legal name to get my script, but overall happy for getting gendered correctly)

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