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Just to have some conversation here I'm curious how you chose your name if you've already chosen one and what the story behind it is? And if you haven't chosen your name yet, maybe people are able to help you decide.

As for me it was always pretty clear which name I would choose because a few years before even realising I'm trans much less coming out I asked my mum what name I would have gotten if I was born a girl. She told me that I always successfully hid my genitals on every ultrasound picture (kind of prophetic in hindsight) so my parents had to choose a name for both possibilities. And thus a name was already chosen for me that fit perfectly. 🥰

I'm curious to hear your stories!

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[–] recently_Coco@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 weeks ago

It's a very nerdy one.

In Final Fantasy XIV, there's a race of little dudes named Lalafell. Their naming scheme makes for repeated and rhyming couples between the first and last name.

I made a Lalafell boy years ago named Cocozan Cozan.

After playing for a bit, my wife's character and mine got married. I decided to change my character's last name to hers, so the Cozan was gone. We always joked about the height difference, though, since I was a little guy and she was a taller race. So I joked about making the tallest character I could, which I believed at the time to be a female Roegadyn.

We quit playing for a while and then returned to the game a few years later.

When we came back, I decided it was time for a change and used an item that lets you change your appearance permanently. I ended up finding an old saved appearance from when I was joking about Fem Roegadyn, and just went with it.

The name Cocozan was no longer appropriate, given the lore, but I found out I could drop the Zan and it would fit fine.

So I became Coco.

It was absolutely amazing being called Coco and she/her by folks online. It wasn't the only thing that did it, but the whole thing absolutely helped crack my very thick egg.

I ended up stealing my character's name IRL, and now I have a very nerdy origin story.

[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

I haven't chosen a name yet.

I did receive a name from a dream which I excitedly wrote down in the middle of the night, because obviously getting my true name from my subconscious is a big deal.

When I woke back up and checked it in a more lucid state, I was disappointed to see it was very clearly made up by dream logic as it was essentially only a parody of a real name.

[–] trashgirlfriend@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

Waking up and in a frenzy writing Clamantha on a piece of paper

[–] OrnateLuna@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I was tripping on lsd a bit after realizing I was trans and looked through baby names, Luna is what I vibed with

[–] Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Just one letter off of my name 😄

[–] SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

Ah, a fellow KSP player. Nice to meet you, Duna.