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How supportive is your family of your transition? (Rate 1-6) (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

My family tends to be sprinkled throughout the different levels. My wife, grandmother and son, easily number 1 in support of my transition and identity.

Many of my cousins I grew up with are level 2.

Father and stepmother are level 5 - possibly level 6 when I was a child - still figuring that one out as new traumas surface.

Everyone else hovers around 3 - 5.

Just remember, I'll always be a level 1 for you ❤️

Level 1: completely supportive

Level 2: mostly supportive but lacking some knowledge, or some transmedicalist attitudes due to ignorance, not malignancy

Level 3: neutral, not supportive but not opposing either, or "supportive" transmedicalist

Level 4: leaning oppose, but no forceful interventions, or refuse to gende you correctly but used neutral pronouns

Level 5: misgendering, not accepting you as their daughter or son, but still pretend to be "loving" misgendered you

Level 6: disowning or physically beating or etc, most extreme measures

(Stolen, with love, from the user Cormier643 on Reddit. Felt like this was a great way to get discussions going again ❤️)

-Olivia ✌🏻

How's your week been? in c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago

Hehe. I saw your application come through the other day 😉

Pffft. Don't tempt me with a good time! in c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 weeks ago

Might just do that :P

Orchi is probably my first surgical step.

unixsocks needs new mods in c/unixsocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 weeks ago

Interested ☺️

Pffft. Don't tempt me with a good time! in c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Sounds cheaper than current surgical options 😁

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Codependency Issues in the LGBTQ+ Community (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) by onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Have you been in a codependent relationship?

My transition has helped me realize just how bad the codependency was in my marriage. Things are really rough for me currently as we try and untangle the destructive habits.

I have never had a sense of identity outside of my relationship with my wife. Now that is changing, it means my marriage must change with it... or not.

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Who has been your biggest support during your transition? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

And how have they shown that support to you?

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Those of you that have children. What does it mean to be a dad or mom to you? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Been a while since I've posted here but missed you all!

I'd love for this to be a discussion question, but also I am legitimately asking.

I have a beautiful son who helped crack my egg when he was born. But I'm still struggling understanding what being a mom means other than "just how I feel"

I never had good blueprints for being a father or mother so all I know is generally "how to be a parent"

But I'm curious to those of you that have children. What does being a mother mean to you? What does being a father mean to you?

Thank you

-Liv

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What thoughts/memories did you have before coming out, in hindsight, are big signs you were trans? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️

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Do you remember the last thing you told yourself was a reason you "couldn't be trans" before your egg cracked? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

That last bit of defense before fully realizing your inner beauty 💜

Maybe-un-doomy update (or, "A crab is making me post!") in c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Well keep listening to that brain and nice critters Hun ;)

Believe it or not that mind of yours wants to be happy and to live life :) I hope this is your first step towards that.

Please feel free to reach out to me through dm or discord/matrix if you'd like another trans sister to talk to ❤️

I live in Indiana so I'm pretty far away but can offer internet cookies and virtual hugs

🫂 🍪

Maybe-un-doomy update (or, "A crab is making me post!") in c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I, like many of us in this community, have been following your situation closely. Unfortunately I was not in a place where I could help how I would have liked, but I will say this:

I'm so incredibly proud of you Keris. I know this was such a scary step but you did it! Take a deep breath and try and relax your little critter head 😘

Better days are ahead. Just keep on taking those small steps. One after another. Soon you'll realize just how far you've come and all the friends and family you have found along the way.

We get to choose our family. And no one can take that from us.

Love yourself and take care ❤️

-Olivia

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What has been the greatest source of euphoria or affirmation through your transition? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Do you have "that one thing" that always feels affirming? Something that you continuously return to because you know it'll make your day better?