Blahaj.zone admin here. Let me make this simple and clear. I don't care what specific word you use, if you are using intellectual disability or neurodivergence as an insult, you're going to get moderated.

[–] TheTetrapod@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Genuinely curious if this applies to moron and idiot, since they have basically the same origin story.

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[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 2 points 3 months ago

thank you ada 🩷🩷🩷 sorry about this post i didn’t know it was going to get so awful

[–] nyctre@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Just... don't use anything one can't control as an insult.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago

Yup. Goes for bodyshaming too.

[–] Nachorella@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I know so many people who adamantly stand by their use of it. I used to say it, too, but all it took was one person to point out to me that it was hurtful and I apologised and stopped no questions asked. I don't get why it's so hard to just have a little empathy.

[–] Gigagoblin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

i used to think it was okay for me to say as i'm disabled. what i noticed, though, is that my doing so 1) communicated to my abled peers that it's okay for them to say as well & 2) made me appear as a pick-me; i was perceived as "one of the good ones."

the r-slur has been causing a very visceral reaction in me for years & i will continue to report each & every instance of it.

[–] Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

That's the problem I have when people of that slur use it. And worse, they act like it's not a big deal. There's offensive words I can use because of my skin tone that would absolutely get any non-colored person choked out.

But you nailed it. If I brush it off like it doesnt offend/isn't a disgusting word, then I am giving permission to others that it's okay to say.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

based and i adore people who are like you

it does tend to be a good litmus test for disempathy, sadly. obviously there are outliers, but if one can’t take a tiny correction to like 0.01% of their vocabulary, color me not surprised when that same person starts talking about the immigrant problem or women’s place in the home or something :(

[–] areyouevenreal@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

My guy still thinks bigotry is caused by lack of empathy. It's actually selective empathy that helps encourage bigots.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

Selective presence of empathy is exactly equivalent to selective lack of empathy, which is a type of lack of empathy.

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[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

It was offensive even way before that. I remember us not serving a customer at the fast food place where I worked because he used it around my co-worker whose brother had Downs Syndrome.

I've never really associated with people who use that word.

Lemmy seems to be pretty good about not using it, though. Reddit, on the other hand...

Edit: After reading this thread, I take it back. There are some straight up disgusting people in this community who really, really want to use the r-slur.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

it absolutely was offensive way before that. from my understanding 2009 was the year there was a unified push to change things across the language though :)

also wow reddit was worse? i won’t lie i never saw it there in the past decade but perhaps i was browsing more wholesome subs than some

but yeah on lemmy it’s not an exaggeration to say i come across it (used as a slur, not in an aviation sense, children 🙄) almost hourly. in another thread i am getting dogpiled with downvotes for asking politely not to use it in a derogatory way.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Every time I've reported it on lemmy, I've seen it removed by mods, but I guess there are a lot of communities here I just don't visit.

Reddit had a very popular sub with the r-slur in its name, and I saw it a lot on CTH (don't ask me why I ever visited that sub -- I ask myself, and I have no answer lol).

And yeah, Rosa's Law was 2010, but even dating back to the 70s people were abandoning its use. I recall my brother having to write an essay about people with disabilities when he used it in school in the 90s (not that I approve of using writing as a punishment).

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[–] Malgas@beehaw.org 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, my mom used to work for an organization called ARC, which pointedly hasn't been an acronym since the early '90s.

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[–] OozingPositron@feddit.cl 1 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Fun fact: Abbott sells methylphenidate chlorohydrate with a retardant effect so that it lasts for approximately 16 hours instead of 4, and they called it Aradix Retard lmao. I know why they called it that but I can't help but laugh every time I see it.

[–] mortemtyrannis@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 months ago

Yes words can mean different things.

Airbus pilots hear the removed call-out all the time.

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