Off My Chest
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Ugh. Nightmare fuel. Do you think he's a decent guy?
Depends on what the standards for decent are, I guess. He has a great job, has money, is hardworking. Personality wise I find him tiring. He's the kind of person who's constantly going: "what me to help with that, need me to do anything, so what's up", etc etc. Suffocating. But at the same time I can feel he means well. He's very generous and willing to lend a hand 24/7. He's a strict non drinker (apparently because his dad was a major alcoholic), non smoker - which I like, I feel like he's a good influence regarding vice avoidance. I can see that my daughter is very happy being with him. She used to be kind of shy and insecure but now has come out of her shell a lot, she has become very extroverted and confident. He's her "hype guy" regarding university studies and career.
It's tough, it sounds like besides the age difference, he's alright. I totally get why it gives you the ick though. Your only complaints about him being overbearing probably comes from him also recognizing the awkwardness of the situation and overcompensating trying to be extra nice.
Yeah. My daughter says that's just his personality with everyone. And she loves that about him. The fact that he has a "good heart" as she puts it - you could call him up at 3 in the morning and ask for him to come and help you with something and he'd do it, no questions asked. She feels "protected" and that she can "depend on him always". He came with us to visit my parents (daughter's grandparents) in the countryside and he chopped wood and made the fires for them (their house is heated using firewood). Being a total city guy - that really impressed my parents; the fact that he wasn't snobbish at all (used the outhouse without issues) and he was so willing to help around.