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My daughter is ~2 months shy of being 21. Her boyfriend is 46. For reference, I'm 45. She introduced him to my wife and me about half a year ago. Since then I've had to bond with him in order to maintain the great relationship I have with my daughter and also keep an eye out for her. But it's tough, uncomfortable. It is what it is. As we say here "să fie ea sănătoasă" - as long as she's healthy (health is the most important thing).

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[–] Obi@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's tough, it sounds like besides the age difference, he's alright. I totally get why it gives you the ick though. Your only complaints about him being overbearing probably comes from him also recognizing the awkwardness of the situation and overcompensating trying to be extra nice.

[–] bathrobe@lemm.ee 4 points 1 day ago

Yeah. My daughter says that's just his personality with everyone. And she loves that about him. The fact that he has a "good heart" as she puts it - you could call him up at 3 in the morning and ask for him to come and help you with something and he'd do it, no questions asked. She feels "protected" and that she can "depend on him always". He came with us to visit my parents (daughter's grandparents) in the countryside and he chopped wood and made the fires for them (their house is heated using firewood). Being a total city guy - that really impressed my parents; the fact that he wasn't snobbish at all (used the outhouse without issues) and he was so willing to help around.