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I'm 23 days into HRT and my boobs hurt and I can feel the weight and I will feel randomly euphoric

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[–] Sekoia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Is spiro really that bad?

I get that it's the least effective among the choices but it also has the fewest side-effects, from my understanding..

Something to bring up w/ my doctor, I guess... I've been trying to reach them for a dosage increase anyway

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

fewest? it makes you constantly dehydrated and puts strain on your kidneys. My advice as someone who wasted 15 months getting fucked around by useless doctors is to plan your healthcare without them, and do whatever it takes to get doctors who will help you. You really cannot rely on them.

[–] Sekoia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm on a really low dosage of spiro (25mg/day), so that might be why I haven't felt it as badly.

But yeah, that's basically what I did. My doctor is actually pretty okay (didn't mind that I didn't have the psychiatric diagnosis that you're "supposed" to have (not a legal requirement)), but she definitely did underdose me, and I am awful at making appointments, so I've just increased my own dosage of E in line with what's actually a reasonable amount.

that's good, but those t levels really don't need to be so high. that's the benefit of monotherapy is that no anti androgen is necessary