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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
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Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

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988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Well... shit. What now? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 weeks ago by commoncrow@sh.itjust.works to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Well, the egg "cracked" I guess. After 24 years, I've realized that I'm ~~probably~~ NB or trans. Looking back, I think that for a long while now, there's been something in the back of my mind. Like a seed of doubt. I can think of any number of things that could've contributed to it. And it's weird to me because I haven't really felt any dysphoria, at least I can't think of anything off the top of my head. But I know that there's something off.

But anyway, over last weekend I was thinking about it a lot and after I came to that conclusion it was like this buzzing in my head that I hadn't realized was there went quiet. And now that I know that... I have no fucking clue what happens next. The only people that know are close friends and I will absolutely not be letting anyone else who knows me know. HRT may be a very long ways (potentially 2 years, haven't looked into it too much yet) away depending on a pending federal job.

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

There are also private HRT options like Folx and Plume, they're more expensive but don't require insurance (and they can ship the estrogen to you, I believe). (EDIT: +1 for Planned Parenthood, btw - the local trans women I know use PP for access to HRT without insurance.)

Being in TX is not ideal, but I don't know what to say other than you should move.

Regardless of your career, being trans is unavoidable, it's not a choice (maybe not how it feels right now, I get it), we know it's a genetic condition and the only treatment known to help is medical transition ... it's like worrying about whether you should get treatment for diabetes because the FAA has special requirements for diabetics who need to take insulin. It's not a realistic option to just not take insulin. While we live in a transphobic society that doesn't recognize the medical importance of HRT for trans folks, for many of us (and maybe you too), it's not that different of a comparison.

I didn't really appreciate this point until I was on HRT, though - I still balk at how long I lived without estrogen, it boggles the mind that I didn't die (I nearly did a few times, looking back). Before then, there was no way I would believe HRT was an essential medication.