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I did thousands and thousands of out loud verbal affirmations until i learned to love myself limitlessly. It's a wonderful feeling!
I'm really glad you found something that works so well for you! Self-love is indeed wonderful. For others reading who might want to try affirmations, it's worth noting that research has found they affect different people differently. What helps one person might not help another, or could even decrease mood in some cases, especially if the affirmations don't feel authentic to where someone is in their journey.
If you're curious about building self-love, you might want to experiment mindfully with different approaches to find what resonates for you personally - whether that's self-compassion practices, ACT, gradual behavior change, or other methods. Pay attention to how different practices actually make you feel rather than how you think they 'should' make you feel.
Good addendum. I worked with a trauma therapist for years and loathed myself so much I would burst into tears when i saw myself in the mirror. after adding in limitless self love affirmations under their guidance my entire life changed for the better. I also was really afraid of needles and would cry during vaccinations but adding in that I'm brave and not afraid of needles took care of that as well. I'm quite suggestible and my brain responds super well to a couple months of daily repetition!
After reading that study I also pursued my affirmations much differently than it describes, taking cues from marketing and self hypnosis methods. Always verbal, while my executive network was distracted and always in the third person. so i don't say 'I'm lovable' I repeat variations like 'have you heard about digitaldruid? She loves herself limitlessly! Oh yeah, I years she is really brave and not afraid of needles at all!'. for me this is extremely effective and my therapist is thrilled with my results because I tried a lot of meds to no avail.