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What's some really unpopular opinion you have? (lemmings.world)

submitted 1 year ago by rikudou@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Most of the time when people say they have an unpopular opinion, it turns out it's actually pretty popular.

Do you have some that's really unpopular and most likely will get you downvoted?

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[–] masquenox@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

make their gender the defining aspect of their character

The vast majority of cishet people (if not all) make their gender the defining aspect of their character - so why should trans people be any different?

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The vast majority of cishet people (if not all) make their gender the defining aspect of their character

I already said it

Something I consider a mistake, nobody’s main defining characteristic should be their gender.

[–] masquenox@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But it already is, isn't it?

So if this...

nobody’s main defining characteristic should be their gender.

...is what you really want you need to start with cis people and not transgender ones, correct?

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But it already is, isn’t it?

Is it what?

…is what you really want you need to start with cis people and not transgender ones, correct?

Dunno about you, but nobody I deal with in RL ever implied something among the lines of "refer to me as ". There was only one case of an ex-boss of mine who always liked to "joke": "you can mistake my name, but never mistake my gender!", but he was the exception

[–] scubbo@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

nobody I deal with in RL ever implied something among the lines of "refer to me as ".

Most likely because they'd never experienced someone referring to them by the wrong gender. You can be pretty sure that if someone started doing so, they'd have something to say about it.

Which is what the other commenter was trying to communicate to you. Gender is already a key component of most cis people's personality - the way they think about themselves, the framework they use to make choices, and the way they want people to relate to them - but it's not noticed as such, because it's "normal", so no-one comments on it and they don't have to act to assert it.