If I say some fucked up shit as a joke, it's only because I failed to see how it was fucked up. Or I'm being sarcastic/facetious. If the former, and it's brought to my attention, I'll apologize and not repeat it. If the latter... 🤷🏻‍♂️

However, I once repeated a joke told to me by my transfem sister that she learned in her trans support group and was called a transphobe on Reddit. Sometimes shit doesn't matter, they just wanna be angry.

[–] SaharaMaleikuhm 11 points 2 months ago

Lots of jokes can be understood in different ways. On the internet nobody can tell if you are sincere, while a trans person at a trans support group definitely is. If I repeat an alt right talking point to my buddy, he knows I'm being sarcastic and I'm making fun of them. But you can't tell if I'm alt right or not. Kinda sad you actually have to explain this.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

Yeah the sort of jokes from trans support groups often wind into the “this is probably not the sort of joke I’m comfortable hearing a random cis person tell”. Lots of jokes about dark aspects of our lives

[–] gwen@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 months ago

what was the joke lmao

[–] HollowNaught@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

This is pretty much my take on jokes using darker material. I'm a very sarcastic and facetious guy, so I say jokes in ways that imply I don't believe what I'm saying, which makes the joke a joke.

Of course, for every person like me there're ten who say them fully seriously