I have both and it's absolutely wild when you have one side which hates order and needs constant chaos and an other side which needs strict rules and order

[–] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 3 months ago

Exactly! I get the obsession over a special interest, but overlook major aspects. For example, when I was in middle school, we had an assignment in which we were given certain materials and instructed to build a craft that can protect an egg from breaking when dropped from a 2nd floor (20-25ft; 6-8m). I created an elaborate system that had two forms of suspension that even impressed the teacher. I was certain this would work. When it came time to test it out, I completely did not account for the craft flipping upside down because I was so focused on the cushioning that nothing else existed. The thing flipped and the egg practically hit the ground directly. Oof. I might as well have just thrown the bare egg at the floor.

Another thing I have done several times is to prepare to make a delicious meal. I will run through the entire recipe noting all the ingredients. My list will be divided by the aisle in which they are located at the grocery store. I plan the entire timeline backwards to make sure everything is completed on time. I go to the store and make sure I get everything per my list. Finally, I go pay and walk out, completely forgetting all of the food items I just purchased! I have done this at least 10 times.

Or more embarrassingly, I was invited to a fancy-pants formal event across the country. I ask about attire, what my expected behaviors are (e.g. giving a speech, spending time with certain attendants, etc.), schedule, where I will be staying...everything. I make an elaborate packing list with backups for things that are essential. Once I get there and just a few hours before the event, I go to get my suit and realize I forgot it on my bed at home all packed and ready to go.

My life is littered with examples like these: going overboard into something while completely overlooking a detrimental component. It's a bit shame inducing, so I get discouraged. It really helps to have helpful people around though. I seem to be much more effective in small caring and respectful teams with overlapping roles and responsibilities.

The End

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 3 months ago

blessedly to some degree i've got it such that they somewhat counteract each other, my memory is absolute dogshit but i can spend a fair bit of time figuring out a good way to organize things such that i don't need to remember things.