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[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 26 points 3 months ago (4 children)

If you are a teenager and you currently feel like you have failed at being a man/woman/heterosexual/whatever, then there is a 79.8% chance you are some form of LGBTQ. Stop beating yourself up and start exploring instead. You'll be happy you did.

[–] olafurp@lemmy.world 26 points 3 months ago (2 children)

You could also be autistic and have the same experience like me or even both

[–] rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 30 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Or you could just be comparing yourself to the unreasonably high standards set by archaic cultural norms.

Basically if you're a teenager and think you're failing at life: No, you aren't, just give yourself some more time to figure things out.

[–] Today@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

Isn't 'failing at life' the normal teenage feeling? It sucks, but it will pass.

[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 2 points 3 months ago
[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 2 points 3 months ago

Me too actually

[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 15 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Important note: just because at some point you felt attraction to people of opposite sex, doesn't automatically disqualify you from LGBTQ

[–] blady_blah@lemmy.world 7 points 3 months ago

The opposite is also true. Just relax and like who you like. Sexuality is a spectrum. Just don't worry about it and didn't stress about who you're attracted to.

[–] Iapar 12 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I'm not feeling that I have failed but that the whole model of gender and sexually are flawed. So, in my opinion, society has failed me.

[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 6 points 3 months ago

Hey you're like seven steps ahead of me.

I only entered the phase of hating society instead of myself when I was like twenty-three.

[–] cactusupyourbutt@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

honestly, as a 30 yo cishet man, fuck gender and sexuality. Do whatever the fuck makes you happy

[–] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Citation on that? I'm sure it's possible, but weirdly-specific percentages with no citation make me suspicious.

In in my, it was just a lot of factors of upbringing and had really weird ideals and probably a dash of neurodivergence that combined to give me this feeling. Getting out of the environment I was in, getting some mental help, etc. solved that for me.

[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

The percentage is just a quirky way of saying it's a high chance, dw about it.