From personal experience, have a shower daily, go for a walk, even if it's only to the end of your garden or street and drink plenty of water. Sleep if you need to.

This won't fix things, but it will give you an opportunity to give yourself a break.

In my experience, beating yourself up about everything you suck at is the single biggest thing that made it worse for me.

Finally, talk to someone, anyone. In the street, at the bus, at work, friends, family, online, anyone.

This too will pass.

[–] caseyweederman@lemmy.ca 56 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Yes.
That's the list of things I know I should be doing but can't.

[–] vk6flab@lemmy.radio 23 points 5 months ago (3 children)

I have been there.

It's not a fun place.

In my experience the thing that gets everything else going is going for a walk. Start small. Walk to your front door and open it. Next time do it again. Perhaps take a step outside. Do it again. Then two steps, closing the door behind you - bring your keys!

The idea is to do something slightly bigger than before, but not so much that you are exhausted or afraid to try again.

The only one who is going to change anything is you, harness your energy and have a crack. Nobody is watching so no need to be ashamed.

Have at it.

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I get that you're trying to be uplifting and motivating and whatnot but executive distinction making it quite literally impossible to motivate myself to get up and take those first few steps is the problem here.

[–] yetiftw@lemmy.world 15 points 5 months ago (1 children)

for me, the most important part is not shaming myself. if I could be doing any better I would

[–] Szyler@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago

That's a good mentality. I will start using that, thanks!

[–] Donkter@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/pictrs/image/9d935cd0-99ff-4c4f-9d45-f76b95d4293e.webp

[–] BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 0 points 5 months ago

Your the elf that wanted to be a dentist!

[–] Timecircleline@sh.itjust.works 7 points 5 months ago

Then don't do all of it. I like to break my to-do list down to the smallest, actionable step? Usually it's just a shower, but it helps me hate myself less.

[–] django@discuss.tchncs.de 28 points 5 months ago

I wished i had a garden

[–] LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 2 points 4 months ago

Thank you, I needed this.