Of course everyone has varying experiences, I'm not trying to flatten that fact. When I say "typical" I'm refering to the fact that these types of incidents are more prevailent as an experience by women under the subjegation of a patriarchical culture that gives males a disproportionate amount pf privilege and status in such a society. I myself mentioned in my original post that it isn't right for this to happen to men any more than women, but I think it's disingenuous to claim these are equivalent experiences. I mentioned minorities and prejudice, and I don't think it's unreasonable to state that racism against white people, while it does exist, is a much different thing then what is experienced by minorities. Trying to create a false dichotomy equating male's experience of sexual harrassment with women's undermines the severity of the problem by trying to act like it's a gender neutral issue, it isn't. We can address both, but it would be wrong to conflate both as the same, we can draw parallels and definitely see lessons from each's perspective, but we can't paint both with a broad brush if we want to address what is the core issue with both.
I’ve seen the worst from both sides. Everyone with either a testicle or an ovary can sit right the fuck down.
But that's just it, right? Your experience is an outlier in the typical male experience. I myself have never experienced those kinds of things, but I am sorry you have.
The problem is, that women experience these types of things far more than men do. It is wrong that it happens to males as well, but that type of sentiment (hey, guys have it bad too!) is exactly why the slogans "All Lives Matter" versus "Black Lives Matter" is a huge deflection on a problematic issue.
Sure, all lives matter, but when there is a disproportionate amount of black people having actions happen that put their lives in danger, re-framing the argument only serves to obscure that reality even further.
I think it's important to realize there is a time and place for grievance, and when it is someone trying to relate their struggle, it isn't helpful to mention "well yeah, I have it bad too". Imagine saying that to a widower: "you lost your wife? I lost my husband and my son!" Comparing burdens does nothing to address the suffering of another, and it doesn't bring to light the scope of the issue when it is a group that experiences more adversity than another.
The fact of the matter is, we live in a male-dominated society, and as such we experience a much, much different reality than women do. Same with minority ethnic groups. And to marginalize those already marginalized groups even further by bringing up our (very real at times) struggles feels like a slight to them.
I do believe that there is a very real need to talk about toxic attitudes held towards things that happen towards men, which is important because it is mainly due to our status, these issues are all too often swept under the rug or minimized because those things "don't happen to men". That is wrong, and is a very real problem.
Do what? Remind me of the babe
No worries! I'm right there with you. I've been juggling a lot lately.
Pico-8 is fantastic! One of my favorite projects on itch. I just beat the Pico-8 version of Celeste, and Celeste 2 as well. There's so many great hidden gems on Pico. My favs are Celeste (of course) Pinballvania, Stabbycrabby, Driplogic and Puzzles of the Paladin. I'm always finding interesting stuff through the random section with splore. I'm thinking about learning lua and fiddling around with making a game on Pico someday.
Definitely! It's always nice to meet like-minded folks, especially across a range of interests. I'm also into tabletop roleplaying (actually created a new community for one shot rpgs here: https://lemmy.ml/c/Every_Post_Is_An_RPG) and love reading (literary stuff, but also genre stuff at times, reading a Discoworld novel by Pratchett currently called The Truth).
Maybe you can sticky a general discussion thread, even if it's seldom used, at least it can facilitate some discussion, especially if there is bandes dessinees chat that isn't thread worthy.
(Man, Lemmy comments aren’t as suited to Play by Post as Discord is. I’ll have to work out the kinks next time. My intention was also to have each game last for roughly a week, so I figured we’d wrap it up with your guy’s next interactions.)
I responded to your last post to @chetradley@lemm.ee, I figured you guys could finally meet and we will wrap things up. My idea was for each game to be a week or two. The last few interactions can be a montage of sorts for a satisfying way to conclude things ;)
(Man, Lemmy comments aren't as suited to Play by Post as Discord is. I'll have to work out the kinks next time. My intention was also to have each game last for roughly a week, so I figured we'd wrap it up with your guy's next interactions.)
Bobbing up in down, with a slight dazed look, the electric woman weakly waves at you,“Hi bird guy! Are you ok up there? I’m just gonna float here a bit…”
With a loud POP! The woman flies out of the tree, knocking into the robot and thrusting both her and the robot into the harbor. She and the robot plunge into the water, scaring the seagulls away. The robot thrashes wildly, and a current carries it out to the mouth of the harbor. Below you is the electric woman, bobbing in the water, looking slightly dazed.
(Sorry for the delay) Roll of 4, +1 for Over-charged batteries
With a flash, sizzle, you focus a current into the batteries. But the current is TOO MUCH! The batteries begin to sizzle and then with a loud POP! EXPLODE! Sending you flying like a torpedo out of the tree, spinning out of control towards the staggering robot's posterior. You collide with the robot, causing you and the robot to fly towards the harbor, the seagulls fly away in a panic as you and the robot narrowly miss the flock and plunge into the water. The robot's squeaker sputters out in a series of watery, faint squeaks, and then finally subsides, as the robot thrashes wildly in the water, bobbing up and down, but unable to keep itself from drifting out, out, out and into the mouth of the harbor. submerged in the water, you feel short-circuited, but thankfully not covered in refuse anymore. Above you dangles the bird-man, his foot caught in a rope like a stirrup...
In 2001, at 16 years old, I snagged a brand new Dreamcast with five or six games for dirt cheap from a local game store. The DC had already been discontinued at that point, the PS2 was about to launch or just did, and retailers were just offloading the Dreamcast merch. Shenmue was one of those games, and was the game I ended up spending the most time with. There really just wasn't anything like it, it was this epic action story of loss and revenge with this sprawling open world with all kinds of sidequests, mini-games and interesting NPCs to explore. The most painful thing for me at the time was the damn cliffhanger at the end, and I never ended up getting a chance to play Shenmue 2 (I think it only made it's way stateside on Xbox). It was definitely a memorable, once-in-a-lifetime experience. There were flaws, to be sure, but they were easily overlooked due to the expansive, ambitious nature of the game.
When big Tech, especially the biggest video platform in the world, does something like this it is relevant to tech. The better question is, if you do support lgbtq+ people, why the public freakout about mentioning a far reaching tech policy, by one of the biggest (if not THE biggest) tech company in the world, on a tech sub?
nazis and fascists, without ever knowing what those words even mean
I am Jack's complete lack of self awareness
Been wanting a NES for a minute. Decided on buying myself a toploading unit for my 40th birthday this year. The American NES toploaders were too pricey, but the Famicom AV was much more affordable and with the bonus of AV instead of RF only like the US model. Just by coincidence I bought Mario Bros as my first Famicom game since that was the cheapest, best quality game I could afford and it just seemed right to make it the first Famicom game I owned. But after I purchased it it dawned on me that it was delightfully appropriate to buy Mario Bros on it's 40th anniversary as my 40th birthday present this year :D
Looking forward to grabbing an Everdrive when I have the cash and really getting down and dirty with it. I have a whole bunch of homebrew and hacks I'm itching to play.
Bleu à la lumière du jour has a very haunting, noir-ish feel to the art. The dialogue is sparse, making the big, silent panels even more exaggerated in their quietude. I am still learning French, so I am slowly reading/translating it piece by piece, as sparse as the dialogue is, but am relishing soaking in the sumptuous atmosphere that Gonzalez has sculpted in these panels. Definitely highly recommended.
I used that example, because I am a widow myself. My fiance passed a few years ago. I don't mean to imply people do this out of malice, just that they try to "make you feel better" by relating to your grief, but unfortunately grief doesn't work like that. When I am grieving, more than anything I'm just looking for someone to listen and understand, not try and tell me "it's normal" or "this happens to everyone, don't feel so bad", because as genuine and heartfelt that sentiment is it is not helpful. I'm not immune to it either, I met a man on the bus who'd lost his daughter, and my first reaction was to mention my fiance rather than listen and let him let it out. I realized what I was doing and reflected about it later, I saw how he reacted and how sharing that type of pain doesn't mitigate it, what you really want is to talk to someone without comparing tragedy. There is a time and place for that, but not in those moments of grief and pain.
Yes, I mentioned that explicitly in my comment, did you read all of it? I never said that it was okay for that type of thing to happen to men, and that we should talk about it. And just like with letting women have the floor, we should allow men to have it when the convo is centered on that issue. I don't see what the issue with giving each issue their own time and space is, we need to have focus if we're talking about two very different, yet similar scenarios, in order to have some kind of real way to find a solution proper to both.