halfeatenpotato

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[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 7 points 2 days ago (8 children)

Huh, I kinda feel the opposite. You need (or at least SHOULD) be very attentive to a pup. Dogs, in general, tend to crave/require more attention. Cats are more hands-off, so they often attract the kinda people who want a pet for the sake of having a pet - which tend to be narcissistic types.*

*not true of all cat people

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Can't tell if this comment is fucking hilarious or fucking disturbing..

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 47 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

Outer Wilds.

If you like space games and puzzle games (in the sense that you need to piece together the situation you're in), this is a great choice.

Highly recommend not looking anything up before you play.

Those plants don't need coffee, they need electrolytes.

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I want to both upvote and downvote this comment... I chose upvote.

I don't really know how to describe it, but it's like I go through life just waiting for the other shoe to drop. When something shocking or remotely dangerous happens, my brain automatically assumes the worst is going to happen and I like go into survival mode. I get filled with such dread.

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Your partner must not be very good at wrestling if you were browsing lemmy during a sesh.

It was in my house growing up quite a few times. Granted, my mom is Mexican but my dad was white/American. They both loved that shit.

I completely agree, but I've never been able to articulate it this well. Do you have any scary movie recommendations? I've got a feeling we have similar taste.

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 13 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm a cis woman on lemmy, and it's my primary (and only) social media consumption. That being said, I do tend to lean nerdy. Highly doubt I'm the only one on here, tho.

I grew up in a poor household, relative to the other kids I went to school with. While I was in public school, I was bullied for not wearing name brand clothing and because all of my school supplies and snacks and everything was generic brand. I became extremely self-conscious about it, and was always trying to hide what I had, or if I found name brand packaging for something in the trash or on the floor, I'd grab it so I could repackage my stuff and pretend like I totally had name brand stuff. As a young adult when I went to college, I only ever aimed for buying name brand stuff, but it was really hard to do so, considering I was still broke...

Anyways, I eventually matured a little more and realized kids are cruel and the whole thing was dumb. I exclusively go with generic everything now and am, always trying to get the best deal, and I even went back to buying second-hand clothes, cause why not?

All that to say, maybe some people had similar experiences and just never grew out of it.

 

Everyone knows relationships are hard work. Everyone knows that relationships hit roadblocks and whatever the fuck else. Fucking why. What's the point? Be with a person that you mostly tolerate most of the days that you exist? And even then, they still might betray you in a horrible way. I've dealt with a lot of pain and stress and loss in my life, and when the happy shit gets sour, I just don't fucking get it. Why not just live my life fucking off and dying eventually.

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Depressed Husband (lonestarlemmy.mooo.com)
 

My husband is clearly depressed. He is also a proud man, and some degree of old-fashioned. I am 4 years younger than him, and am far more open to the idea of therapy and medication.

For context, he has dealt with his dad (whom he was close with) committing suicide when he was a teenager, a long-term girlfriend (whom he really wanted to marry) cheating on him with multiple men (including a good friend at the time) for years, and his best friend of 10 years (my brother) dying in a rafting accident that we were both part of. I've been struggling personally myself, but I have a few different things I'm trying, including therapy. He is unwilling to try therapy or medication, but isn't getting better, cause holy shit, that's a lot of unprocessed shit to deal with.

It's manifesting in really nasty ways, and hurting both of us. I don't think he means the things he says; I think he's hurting a lot and doesn't know what to do.

For what it's worth, I really have not been great to him or myself. I've been dealing with my own emotional baggage, but I'm not going to get into that. I'm working on it, and feel like after many years of work, have come through a breakthrough where I understand that I do in fact want this person in my life.

How can I help guide him to anything that will help him? Doesn't need to be therapy, medication, or a psychiatrist. Those do seem like the obvious answers, but I'm open to virtually any suggestions.

This man is amazing and a wonderful person, but he's really struggling and doesn't seem to want help, but at the same time, seems like he needs/wants help. Any thoughts?

Edit: I'm really touched by all of the thoughtful responses I've received. I don't like to talk about my marital issues with people in my life, and I know my husband wouldn't want others to know what he's struggling with. This is a great community.

I'm slowly working my way through each response. Seriously - thank you all.

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