halfeatenpotato

joined 1 year ago

I went to a really small middle school/high school (this was a charter school that had grades 6-12), and everyone in my grade was pretty tight-knit. When we were 17, one of my buddies had been at a house party with her older 23-year-old boyfriend on a Saturday night. Now, we all knew this guy was a POS, and we were always telling her to dump his ass. But anyways, at some point, my friend decided she wanted to leave the party and go back home, but her boyfriend didn't want to go. They apparently argued about it, and she ended up leaving the party by herself and started walking. She called her mom to let her know where she was and ask her to come pick her up, when all of the sudden, my friend was abruptly cut off. Her boyfriend had angrily gotten in his car and made a beeline straight for her. Ran her over and killed her while she was talking to her mom. He apparently asked someone nearby to help him load her in the back of his car, and he drove her body to his home and brought her inside. Some witnesses had followed him home and called the cops. They arrested him on the spot.

The other thing happened when we were 14/15 - same school. There was this badass algebra teacher/baseball coach that we all loved. He had been going over to this girl's house to "tutor" her for close to a year, but one day her mom found a sext from him on her daughter's phone. Come to find out, he had been raping her just about the whole time, but also they like basically had a full-fledged relationship. This girl's mom was one of the admins at our school, and like I had mentioned, it was a really small school, so the staff were something like a family. There was constantly outings and events with all of the staff and their families, so the two of them were able to spend time a lot of time together without raising eyebrows. The girl was 13 at the time, and the teacher was in his late 30s. He got sentenced to 15 years in jail.

The top of their head is perfectly round. It's really unsettling lol.

 

Everyone knows relationships are hard work. Everyone knows that relationships hit roadblocks and whatever the fuck else. Fucking why. What's the point? Be with a person that you mostly tolerate most of the days that you exist? And even then, they still might betray you in a horrible way. I've dealt with a lot of pain and stress and loss in my life, and when the happy shit gets sour, I just don't fucking get it. Why not just live my life fucking off and dying eventually.

Only thing I miss from Reddit was the booming Project Zomboid subreddit I had stumbled upon. I like Lemmy way more in general.

Castlevania Symphony of the Night.

My brother had a string quartet play one of the songs at his wedding. It was so beautiful.

I think the point of these movies are to inform the public of the brutality of war, and how shitty our government can be. It's purpose is to shine a light on it, which I do think is pretty useful. Otherwise, most of us may not have known about it, and would have a very different/heavily filtered view of our government.

This is the kinda selfless attitude the world needs.

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 19 points 1 month ago (8 children)

When I was first starting as a server at this one restaurant, I swear every other phrase out of my coworkers' mouths when they saw me during the entire first 2 weeks was, "you having fun yet?". And everytime, I'd give a half-assed smirk and say "oh you know it". So dumb. That phrase still irritates the shit out of me to this day.

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 28 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I think January 6 proved that they are more willing to take extreme measures. The tension has been noticeably increasing.

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 35 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I wear a bra because I feel weird when my tits are bouncing freely in public, or when I know that others can see my nipples. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with going braless, but I definitely have been conditioned to feel weird about it, and it's hard to shake.

I have so many beautiful memories of playing BioShock. What a game. BioShock 2 was exciting, although not as good as the first one (to me), but very cool that I got to play as a Big Daddy. BioShock Infinite was just great - elements of the base game, but a genuinely fresh story that didn't feel forced (ahem Bioshock 2...).

All that to say that this hurts to read. BioShock meant/means so much to me. I hate the current state of the gaming industry.

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Depressed Husband (lonestarlemmy.mooo.com)
 

My husband is clearly depressed. He is also a proud man, and some degree of old-fashioned. I am 4 years younger than him, and am far more open to the idea of therapy and medication.

For context, he has dealt with his dad (whom he was close with) committing suicide when he was a teenager, a long-term girlfriend (whom he really wanted to marry) cheating on him with multiple men (including a good friend at the time) for years, and his best friend of 10 years (my brother) dying in a rafting accident that we were both part of. I've been struggling personally myself, but I have a few different things I'm trying, including therapy. He is unwilling to try therapy or medication, but isn't getting better, cause holy shit, that's a lot of unprocessed shit to deal with.

It's manifesting in really nasty ways, and hurting both of us. I don't think he means the things he says; I think he's hurting a lot and doesn't know what to do.

For what it's worth, I really have not been great to him or myself. I've been dealing with my own emotional baggage, but I'm not going to get into that. I'm working on it, and feel like after many years of work, have come through a breakthrough where I understand that I do in fact want this person in my life.

How can I help guide him to anything that will help him? Doesn't need to be therapy, medication, or a psychiatrist. Those do seem like the obvious answers, but I'm open to virtually any suggestions.

This man is amazing and a wonderful person, but he's really struggling and doesn't seem to want help, but at the same time, seems like he needs/wants help. Any thoughts?

Edit: I'm really touched by all of the thoughtful responses I've received. I don't like to talk about my marital issues with people in my life, and I know my husband wouldn't want others to know what he's struggling with. This is a great community.

I'm slowly working my way through each response. Seriously - thank you all.

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