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I want to but my wife is still holding out hope for a 4th..

Got two kids, got the snip after. The wife deserves no longer taking the pill.

Fuck the haters and fuck masculinity.

As for your co-worker, ask him if he would be able to tell the difference in your masculinity if you fucked him.

I knew I never wanted to have kids. My wife and I discussed it in depth while we were dating; she felt the same way. Even then, I waited a couple years after getting married just on the off chance that either of us might change our mind. I ended up doing it when I was in my early 30s around 8 years ago and never once have I regretted it.

and I even heard one was questioning my masculinity.

yeah everyone knows you have to breed your way to the top.

oh wait. no, that's fucking idiotic. you work with at least one moron.

Got mine at 27 with no kids. Never wanted any, never had any regrets.

I know someone who got the snip pretty young because he and his wife didn't want kids. Years later friends of ours had kids and it changed their mind. He got it undone and they had a kid.

Seems like a minor thing to do and condoms are the worst.

I did it when I was married to my ex-wife. I didn't want kids.

Then we got divorced.

You know what's really awful? Dating and having to worry about pregnancy. That was never a concern. I have zero regrets. If I wanted to have small creatures running around my house that would destroy everything I cared about, I would get a few additional cats.

I can always adopt if I want more kids. Got it years ago. Highly recommended.

I recommend every man to read Ejaculate Responsibly. The basic concept is that the options for men to prevent pregnancy such as condoms and vasectomy. They are safe with no side effects. Most vasectomies are reversibility. Get one. I'm planning on getting one after having all the kids I want.

Best fifteen bucks i ever spent.

I got it done when i was 33, booked it the day I got medical insurance again; that was 11 years ago, no regrets at all.

I’ll give your absolute door-stop of a coworker the benefit of the doubt and say maybe he’s heard a common misconception that getting the snip lowers testosterone.

Sucks to be those misinformed idiots cuz it’s probably the best thing I ever did for my marriage and sex life in one cheap go.

I got the snip when I was 28. Specifically sought out a scalpeless procedure.

Worst part was the awkwardness of just being on the table naked with some dude going to work on my genitals. Virtually no pain, really for me. The only time was when I decided I was done being particularly lazy/careful and did some cooking. Needed to crouch to get a pain and was VERY uncomfortable.

If you know you don't want (any, or more) kids, just don't. Generally speaking, the side effects are worse for your partners to use birth control etc, and its just a one time thing for you.

How does being able to have all the unprotected sex you want harm your masculinity? Toxic masculinity is weird. 😄

I got one two years ago after my son was born. Zero long term side effects. I had a more difficult recovery than most with some excessive swelling and bruising. I was on the couch for about a week, but then it all healed up just fine. There’s not even a scar. 10/10, would recommend even with my unusually long recovery. The surgery itself was also a lot shorter than I expected. There was one jolt of pain but otherwise it was pretty quick and straightforward.

My one word of caution to guys considering it is that it’s not always reversible so you need to treat it as a permanent decision.

Just got mine done this past October. Almost a year after kid number 2.

We had 7 years of infertility issues before our first kid. Then 4 years later had our 2nd. I told the wife shortly after we found out she was pregnant with number 2 that when this kid pops I'm getting the snip. She was offended that I didn't talk to her about that decision because she wanted to talk about more.

Well, by birthing time of number 2 there had been enough complications for her that she's ready for me to get the snip. I don't regret waiting a bit for her to make sure she's fully good with the decision though.

If you do get it done make sure to give the follow-up samples after the fact to ensure the procedure worked.