I can't say I'm ever particularly aware of my gender when I'm dreaming
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I've never been aware of my gender while dreaming unless it wasn't a PG dream
Same. My body just exists in the dream. Well. A blob sometimes? It's just there to make sure I can cook all these eggs for my goblin friends and the cat. Or some other insane task my brain dreamed up.
Transman here. I dream as a man even when dreaming of my childhood.
Wholesome af.
As a cis man, I'm confused. I mean I just dream about my self, do people sometimes not? Like I at most have altered memories in dreams, but it's still fundamentally me.
Right, and everything is my point of view. , so what I’m experiencing, more than on me personally
Boringly straight man here: I usually dream as myself, but occasionally I'm dreaming that I'm someone else. Could be either a man or a woman. Sometimes I have no body at all.
So I know nothing about how common my style of dreams are, but I don't see any reason why trans people would have to dream a single persona all the time.
Same
as a trans man i think my dreams have weirder things to unpack than my POV character's gender, but overall it varies, 96% of the time i'm just me, those 4% of dreams i remember that i was someone else have a pretty 50/50 gender split
and per the me part: i'm a man but gender never really comes up so i'd be more inclined to say i'm just me
probably most often one dreams as the gender they are but i often dream i can fly and breathe underwater all the time so i wouldn’t say it’s a red flag or invalidating if you happen to dream as a gender you aren’t. :)
I sometimes dream that I'm lovable.
you dream correctly my friend 💛
I wish I could breathe underwater in my dreams.
skill issue
I think asking for trans people is wrong because they genuinely are (in a sense of their core identity and perception of themselves) the gender they transitioned too.
But a different question would be for example, for someone who got disbled later in life, are you disabled in your dreams?
The answer (atleast for me) in that case, is mostly I am, but not always, and sometimes less severely so than in real life.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on this.
I often am even more disabled in my dreams than I am in real life, as my dreams play to my fears of being entirely unable to walk (I have muscle weakness and fatigue, but I can still walk almost all of the time) or to wake up (also have narcolepsy and sometimes can't wake up).
I can only give an answer from someone who was always disabled "I am disabled in my dreams, but at the level I was in my 20s (so capable of walking unaided and stuff) despite steadily becoming worse"
What objective evidence do you have of your premise that men dream as a male character and women dream as a female character?
You dream of yourself being an NPC?
I dream of selling overpriced potions to the adventurer who comes by my village. When he buys nothing I get frustrated i yell "come back when you've got some coin"
Not trans, but I’d imagine it’d be same if I were: I typically dream as myself. Y’all be dreaming as other people? That’s kinda cool.
I normally just dream as myself, whatever that is at any given time
I mostly dream of drowning myself
Cis male but if the topic is dreams and identity I once had a kick ass lucid dream where I transformed into a Killik and got to experience being a humanoid insect with 4 arms and 2 legs.
i dream of myself as the disaster of gender that i am
if im having a rough day with dysphoria irl then the dream world will typically reflect that
the trans aspect, like with most things, can be taken out of the equation. trans women being women, trans men being men, will dream being themselves most often regardless of gender
I've had a few dreams as a cis male where I was a woman, so basically I reject your premise. However in most dreams I'm not even a character, I'm just the perspective from which the story is experienced.
You dream as a "character" like in a video game?
Not all dreams are projections of your own aspirations or true self image.
They're random scenarios put together by your brain during sleep for purposes we don't entirely understand yet, though they may be related to digesting the information you've gathered over the previous day to turn it into lessons and connections you can call on later from your unconscious memory.
You make a body and gender for yourself in dreams?
To what end?
I rarely dream, and when I do, it's either a nightmare or the most borderline trash imaginable. I dreamt once about myself, and it was about me being trans specifically.
Yes, we usually dream as ourselves.