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Is that why he wears diapers?
This is just homophobia, by the way
Oh please do fuck off with that shit, Karen.
I remember when calling someone a Karen was a word with a meaning, specifically calling out bigoted white women - those who would punch down. This is the opposite; someone calling out bigotry.
How?
Assuming good faith question: The (false) dichotomy of top/bottom implies a power dynamic in which the bottom is subservient to the top. In reality, it's often a simple preference and bottoms can domineer just as well as tops. Some prefer it that way. And there's more than top and bottom. Versatile is the obvious third option (no or changing preference for position) as well as side (prefers non-penetrative sex).
There's this stereotype (may not be the right word) that extends from the above in that tops are more masculine or powerful by virtue of topping, due to the tie with being dominant. Thus bottoms are more feminine and subservient. All of that is false and represents the gay community in a pretty bad, oversimplified, sexist-somewhere-along-the-line way.
The dom/sub axis is not the same as the top/bottom axis (not really an axis).
Sure, but the joke here is turning the dumb jokes of the homophobes against them, right? Calling a homophobe "haha u'r gay n a bottom" is kinda using their homophobia against them, no?
Also, I'm gay myself. If someone said "haha, u like taking it up the ass", I would be like, "sure I do!". Say this to a homophobe n they would be incredibly offended. So ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
But sure, I get why the morals of this aren't so straightforward.
You aren't wrong. It's rather philosophical at that point. There's the "don't say it because it's shitty angle" (quasi-mine, though mine was more a explanation vs a held belief) vs the "take it back from them" angle. Both have pros/cons and I'm not going to pretend I have the 'perfect' answer. The truth is probably that whichever is more effective/least damaging probably varies by context.
It’s not just the top/bottom part that’s problematic, it’s the entire post. The punchline is “Trump and Elon are gay for each other, isn’t that funny?” which centers the idea that it would be bad or wrong for them to be gay for each other, perpetuating the conservative stereotype that there’s something wrong with being gay.
Good call, I missed it. We've got layers of shittiness in this meme.
Oh FFS.
We (gay people) have been pointing out the hypocrisy of homophobes with this sort of joke for ages and will continue to do it because it's fucking hilarious. We are, in doing so, celebrating that it's wonderful to be gay and sad that they don't see that or see there at times in-the-closet-like behavior.
The last thing thing I need is a bunch of word police telling me what I can and cannot say.
You know who IS making it seem like there's something wrong with being gay? People like you.
As a “joke” it treats being gay as derogatory. You’re welcome to make shitty homophobic jokes if you want to.
Are you gay?
Are you not ok with being gay if you are? Are you not and experiencing latent homophobia?
Because that's the only way you can possible conclude that it's derogatory to call someone gay.
lol, the idea that I’ve said there is something wrong with being gay or being called gay is rich.
lol, the idea that I’ve said there is something wrong with being gay or being called gay is rich.
You've said that using jokes about being gay is derogatory. Literally what you are saying is that calling someone gay has negative connotations. It's bad to be gay.
Let's try to put this in simple terms:
If one of my many very gay male friends calls someone a fag they are owning the definition of "fag". If I call myself a dyke I own that word. If we joke about homophobes being secretly gay we own the language and we erect a shield against that being used in a derogatory manner against us.
You want to police those definitions and tell people what they can and cannot say and can and cannot joke about. You want to take away that shield.
I suspect you are young and did not live through a time when it was absolutely CRITICAL for the queer community writ large to take control of our language. Literally that was the only way we gained power and the only way we made jokes about fags and dykes NOT be derogatory.
Jokes that treat being gay as bad are themselves homophobic, yes - they do not reclaim the word, they perpetuate hatred. You’re welcome to make those jokes - I’m not stopping you by calling out your internalized homophobia.
You can also reclaim any words you want to. Nothing wrong with that.
Jokes that treat being gay as bad are themselves homophobic
You are interpreting this particular joke as saying being gay is bad. I'm not. So I'm reclaiming the words and rolling with it. 'MMmmkay?
This is just absolutely ridiculous. It's thought police over-engineering for clout.
It's a dissection of why some people in the LGBT community may be offended. If you're unwilling to try to see the perspective of others and choose to instead reject empathy, that's a problem for you and the people around you. This internet stranger will continue to have a good day.
Also, clout? On Lemmy? Oh good, I've got the support of all 12 of us...
It’s a dissection of why some people in the LGBT community may be offended. If you’re unwilling to try to see the perspective of others
I don't think you see the hypocrisy in your own comments.
Empathy would be you not trying to tell people what to think and say and being willing to see their perspective.
Also, clout? On Lemmy? Oh good, I’ve got the support of all 12 of us…
Hey maybe that's meaningful to you. It certainly seems to be to many.
I don’t think you see the hypocrisy in your own comments.
I never misunderstood that you're close minded. I'll even grant that it can be frustrating to feel like you need a formal course on such things and that it changes entirely too fast and that sometimes it all feels like bullshit (ask me about using the term demisexual wrong* on the internet one time). But the world is made better when we work to understand others, which you've demonstrated that as being a non-priority for you.
It certainly seems to be to many.
Then why are you here?
But the world is made better when we work to understand others, which you’ve demonstrated that as being a non-priority for you.
That's your interpretation because I don't agree with you because as a queer person I want to not be told how to use queer words. Thus demonstrating that working to understand others is a non-priority for you.
That's the hypocrisy.
you really can't see how using sexuality to mock someone you hate is homophobic?
you really can’t see how using sexuality to mock someone you hate is homophobic?
It's not using sexuality to mock someone. It's using hypocrisy to mock someone.
You know what's the same thing? When gay men call each other fags or lesbians dykes. It's taking what was intended as derogatory and flipping it around to celebrate it. It's the ideal response to bullying assholes of any kind.
It's not using sexuality to mock someone. It's using hypocrisy to mock someone.
I guess it would make it okay to call a black right-winger an N-word and talk about how he can't swim and only eats chicken and watermelon, then?
When gay men call each other fags or lesbians dykes
and I'm sure you know that not everyone is comfortable doing that because of their lived experiences. it's awesome that homophobic jokes don't affect you, but not everyone can distance themselves from them.
I guess it would make it okay to call a black right-winger an N-word and talk about how he can’t swim and only eats chicken and watermelon, then?
If you are black, yes, it would be ok. And many black people do. It's the exact same defense mechanism.
and I’m sure you know that not everyone is comfortable doing that because of their lived experiences.
Then let them not be comfortable with it and let me and my people alone. Do not try to police my language just because perceive someone somewhere to have experienced some mild discomfort... and why? WHY DO I SAY THIS?
Because honey, they need to arm themselves against that discomfort. You need to have a shield and that shield is OWNING the words. If you let people who use derogatory words own them you have lost power.
Calling a homophobe gay isn't homophobia though, is it
Yeah, it is. It reinforces the idea that there is something wrong with a gay homophobe being gay, rather than the problem being that they are a homophobe.
it's perpetuating the view that calling someone "gay" is somehow an insult.
Are you serious?
... you could just explain your logic you know.
It isn't the general consensus.
calls out a post for being homophobia topped with an extra serving of homophobia
less upvotes than someone who thinks “haha gay” isn’t homophobic
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Thanks for trying.
This is just homophobia, by the way
Tell us you are not a gay man without telling us you are not a gay man.
Edit: Probably 85% of my social circle is some delicious flavor of queer. Kinda comes with being queer I guess. We make these jokes in part to normalize this sexuality and to make fun of hypocrites and bullies. It's the same thing as when the kid in school says "that's so gay" and you reply "oh really? You wanna get together later?". This has come up a few times - the sensitivity of some groups to these kinds of jokes - and the conclusion is basically that people who object to them are generally either not queer or insecure about being queer and want to exert control over the conversation either to get cred with the community or to assuage their fears.
Just because you are gay does not mean you are not homophobic.
They likely meant that it's a joke about power dynamics implying sexual preference. That is homophobic, but funny, but also homophobic.
In short, just cause you like it up your arse doesn't mean you are a spineless idiot with no power. Instead Let people enjoy things and try to stop the spread of these stereotypes even in jokes. You never know who hears them and what social climate you might propagate into the heads of others and youth. If you are aware of these caveats you are allowed to make the most offensive jokes.
Um... WHAT?
The thing I love the most about these memes is they're seriously effective.
Are they though? I feel like they just make those that found Trump and Elon to be really weird and rotten, have a laugh. I don't know anyone conservative, that has commented on these kinds of memes, to me or others I know.
Or did you mean effective in pulling some political stance BBJ reversal moves?
It's effective in driving a rift between Musk and Trump, as many news outlets are reporting that they've been contacted by the Trump PR Team to clarify that Trump is in charge after the "President Musk" taunting began. Trump's superiority complex and vanity is absolute, so being upstaged by a positionless goon will make him very unhappy.
Although, I concede that we don't know what actual longterm effect if any this will truly have.
they've been contacted by the Trump PR Team to clarify that Trump is in charge after the "President Musk" taunting began.
Ugh, the childish insecurities are not befitting of someone in charge of anything, let alone a country. Dude is seriously a loser. Despite all that money and power, at the core, he's just an insecure loser.
Oh I see. That's a solid take on the situation IMO. Haha yeah. Time will tell what comes of this shit show being put on by goons, and loons, set on the verge of collapse, USA. Let dumpster fires light their way.
With those two divas fighting, it's gonna be several dumpsters full of illegal fireworks. The inept president of the us vs the comparably inept richest man in the world riling up the same cult against each other. Do you think they realized they were in a highlander situation before they got in bed together?
Hey we got our first illegal immigrant president, if that ain't woke I don't know what is.
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