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If you don’t tell the people why you are leaving, they don’t know what is going on. And this applies to businesses it applies to stores it applies to companies. It even applies to social media accounts. It even applies to your friends and family.

If you tell people why you are leaving, at least they can make a decision if they want to change or not. If the company or whatever is seeing less people coming in, but nobody will say why they’re leaving. How can they make the change?

There’s no realistic way that a manager or a host or the owner of a business or whatever could realistically ask every single person who comes through the door hey are you happy? Are you coming back? Is there anything we should change? That’s not real.

If you aren’t happy and you don’t say what is making you unhappy. Then that’s on you.

Not the business or the social media site or whatever.

They can’t read minds.

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[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 7 points 4 days ago

Part of it depends why I'm leaving. Do I care about the people I'm leaving? If not, why spend the energy interacting with them?

[–] Sanctus@lemmy.world 5 points 4 days ago

Please do:
- Announce that you are leaving
- Make your way awkwardly around the party as I excitedly maintain eye contact
- Give me a big warm hug because I love you

[–] 9tr6gyp3@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

If that data wasn't farmed, added to databases, sold to third parties, or used to build/add to profiles, I would probably do exit interviews.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 4 points 4 days ago

I only really see that statement applying to only specific situations such as:

  • Social media - like a big facebook group for example, where people don’t really know each other personally. No one will really care if you leave unless you’re a moderator or popular member that everyone recognizes.

  • Big gatherings or parties - If it’s a big party and you don’t know everyone or you’re not really personally acquainted to the host, I don’t really think it’s necessary to announce you’re leaving.

[–] randomdeadguy@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago

👻 I love my predilection to disengage from encounters silently. I find it empowering. Thank you for your unpopular opinion!

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 2 points 4 days ago

Upvoted for being an unpopular opinion!

Fuck companies. They could create good working environments if they wanted to. Pro tip: they don't give a shit.

[–] Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

If a company or person is open to feedback and change, they will already have policies or behavior to reflect that. People who want to improve are responsible for cultivating an environment where honest peer review is possible, because at the opposite end of the spectrum, fear of retribution will motivate people to quietly leave any situation.

[–] ptz@dubvee.org 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

It's basically an exit interview, so yeah, they're helpful feedback.

I think a lot of the hate the "I'm leaving" posts get is because they're often expressing a lot of pent-up frustrations that just kind of come out in an "absolute candor", tactless way. Not unlike some IRL exit interviews lol.

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 days ago

I'm kinda torn on this because it amounts to the flip side of manners. It's a very practical version of it, but it's essentially saying that where manners are there to benefit everyone via a shared, consensual set of rules; rejecting those manners as a form of protest isn't polite to others. That's a pretty big stretch it what was actually said, but it's a way of breaking the idea down to examine it.

It also misses part of the point of walking away. Engaging with bad actors is surrendering your volition to them on several levels, so walking away is refusing to give them that. It's a form of self empowerment.

All of which means that I don't know if this is actually an unpopular opinion or not. It's really the default to complain, to gripe, criticize, critique and engage. So can that really be considered unpopular?

Also, in that regard, any time a post here insults someone that has a different opinion "...just leave is incredibly stupid" isn't really an opinion as much as it is rage bait. You could express the concept without trying to manipulate the audience that way. It smacks of vote begging. Taking the time to express an unpopular opinion their insulting the audience means that the opinion itself is being presented as the thing to think about and vote on. When you include insults, you're basically saying "down vote me because I'm an asshole, don't examine anything else".

[–] Little8Lost@lemmy.world 1 points 4 days ago

I think it depends. If its clear why a company is bad or they wont listen (maybe even attacking) then i would not explain/give a false reason.
At least like low income retail/service jobs often dont need to be explained as its obvious

Or if i am silently leaving from a birthday party where a lot of people attend it could be weird too to break the mood