Men don't talk face to face; they talk shoulder to shoulder. Not sure why you expect everyone else to "confront their feelings" with you.
this post was submitted on 23 Sep 2023
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I'm honest, I don't understand that analogy.
Obligatory "nOt ALl MeN"
I'm a dude and I'm fine with my guy friends showing emotion. Very few do. We're socially taught it's weird, but it's not.
Get yourself a guy friend you can hug.
Yeah .. you're right 🙈
problem is though
Past sexual abuse makes it physically icky (I'm straight!!)
You have given lemmy very little to go on here, so pick whichever answer you prefer.
Hypothesis 1: The culture of which you are a part has established gender roles which lead to its women typically being more emotionally open and empathic than the menfolk.
Hypothesis 2: For similar cultural reasons, women around you tend to favour a communications style that happens to be more compatible with the one you have developed for yourself, leading to easier mutual understanding.
Hypothesis 3: You have some hang-ups of your own about sex which are making you more receptive to female company than male.
I'm not sure about H1, because I'm younger in years than the number of relocations I had in my life
H3 plays definitely a part into my perception tho!
Loaded question. Full of judgement, too.
Fair enough, it's a subjective perception that I asked about
Men are often socialized to believe that showing emotion is reserved for children, women, and the weak. They are often taught that emotions are in direct opposition to "strength" and "manliness".
Unfortunately, if men show emotion, they are often criticized and made fun of (often by other men), calling their masculinity into question. As if having emotions make you weak or less of a man.
Emotions are not a "weak" trait. Emotions are a human trait.
Men need to work hard to be supportive and accepting of other men showing emotion. De- stigmatize emotional men. Stop showing sensitive men or men who struggle or cry as "weak" or worthy of mockery. This is such an antiquated view and needs to be abolished.
Support your bros. Become comfortable with emotional expression. This will help struggling men everywhere, I guarantee it.
"Did Jesus ever cry? No! And neither will I!"
John 11:35 Jesus wept.
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Oh, I didn't get that 🙈
Toxic patterns get passed on due to resentment, often. It's not like they wanted to have to suppress their emotions, but they were taught to. The idea people don't have to anymore itches some people in a weird way.
Like, pretend you joined a club that had an initiation that was really painful, and it happened every year. Tradition. Now imagine that started to change, and you yourself were from that last year that ever had to do it. Now everyone who joins doesn't have to. That could breed resentment for those new people and that new system, if you let it.
Yeah, I guess that change would confuse the hell out of me …
and I guess I recognize that kind of resentment, like "why/how the hell is him able to be so vulnerable and I not?" That makes so much sense but it's crazy confusing to me still
So, it may be that men resent me for my ability to be vulnerable?! Damn wtf