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I'm mid-30s be went through a weight fluctuation. I used to be very thin and honestly quite hot, though I didn't realize it. I never really felt like I got much male attention. I also hated being perceived and pretty much avoided men, so that's probably why. Then I gained weight (around 40 pounds) and did a lot of mental and emotional work and learned to live my body. I felt better and more beautiful in my bigger body than I ever did when I was young. I also had way more male attention. Maybe because my own confidence had grown. In the past 2 years, I lost the weight and at first got my "old" body go but then started working out a lot and have a new, different, strong body. Which, on top of the work I did when I was bigger, I love my body. I definitely notice eyes following me a lot, but have less approaches. Hopefully I'm intimidating.