this post was submitted on 10 Apr 2024
0 points (NaN% liked)
World News
32046 readers
471 users here now
News from around the world!
Rules:
-
Please only post links to actual news sources, no tabloid sites, etc
-
No NSFW content
-
No hate speech, bigotry, propaganda, etc
founded 4 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Wtf is wrong with people who are pedos. There must be some chemical imbalance that we should be able to fix by the time kids are 10 and never become pedos. I mean it's wishful thinking but damn it's 2024!
It's important to note that the attraction to kids, and actually diddling them, are technically separate things.
No normal person has trouble not raping people of the opposite gender, no matter how wild their libido gets.
So while research has essentially proven that the condition itself can't be cured, it doesn't automatically mean a person also wants to rape.
It's when those two things go wrong at the same time, that you get a monster.
So basically, teach consent. If you don't raise a rapist, they're not gonna end up a child molester, even if they feel the attraction.
Also "fixing it by the time someone is 10" is gonna be difficult. People tend to be attracted to people their own age, so what, is a 14-year-old a pedo if they do something with a classmate?
Oop... ooh boy here we go with the twitter/reddit talking points 😬
There is zero amount of attraction you can have to kids before you become a monster. The only difference between a MAP and a chomo is time. I'm honestly floored here of all places you would see pedo apologia like this, but the federation has been disappointing me a lot recently.
EDIT: Wait what?? I didn't read this until now but "People are attracted to people their own age" maybe it's just my asexuality talking but i'm pretty sure you don't feel "attraction" until your sex juices start flowing. One thing I do remember as a kid was feeling socially pressured to go out with girls even though I was prepubescent and had no interest in that sort of thing, and not understanding why I didn't feel like I had to. Wasn't until I was a full on adult that I started to realize just how much western society low-key pushes pedophilia onto you.
EDIT2: I'm appalled by the reception of this comment and by the fact that the original comment has been allowed to stay up. Allowing pedophile talking points is going to cause permanent damage to both the quality of the community and to the legitimacy of Lemmy as a whole. How are you going to convince normal people to join this site when stuff like this is heavily upvoted?? I sure as hell don't feel safe and i'm sure many others would feel the same way.
EDIT3: I just looked at the guy's profile and you all ought to be ashamed of yourselves. It's like 90% anime shit.
The fact that you're ace explains a bit. You simply have no experience with this.
When I was 14, I was horny as hell. My "sex juices" were most certainly flowing. I crushed on several girls in school but at that age I was far too awkward to even speak to them. Let alone know what to do with my frustration aside from masturbate.
Not allowing my libido to drive me to hurting someone is the easiest thing ever. It was then, still is today. (No, I do not feel a need to fuck a 14-year-old, I sleep with adults around my own age)
Nothing about the research into pedophilia suggests that their libidos work in some different way. If you're a moral person who doesn't want to hurt anyone, you will do your best not to. And not having sex with children is a pretty easy call to make.
I'll be the first to admit that I don't exactly think clearly when turned on, but it has never, ever, even in a years-long dry spell, led me to even slightly consider actually doing something with someone without their consent.
Nothing you can tell me can convince me that a person who doesn't want to hurt others, can be made to do so by their sex drive.
Especially considering you don't even know what having a libido feels like.
You're just assuming I don't feel attraction. I do, I just don't feel attracted to children. Ace people aren't fucking robots you know.
You need to take the appropriate steps to make sure you don't either because it's only a matter of time before you end up acting on it. Normal people don't feel this overpowering pull you're describing and you need to understand that it's impossible to be virtuous while doing nothing to rid yourself of it.
You are in the wrong side of this.Theres a German doc shedding some light on this issue:
https://youtu.be/vogs4NzqI3Q (money quote around 7:07), basically "half the perpetrators of child sexual abuse do not feel an attraction to kids. On the other hand, half the people who do feel attracted to kids do not become perpetrators."
Basically, half the people abusing kids don't do so because they're attracted to kids but presumably because they're easier victims whereas half the people getting attracted to life feel disgusted by themselves.
It's, for all that we know, as congenital as being straight or queer. Now, with queer and straight preference, you don't necessarily run into consent problems. Imagine you notice yourself being attracted to, idk, 15-year-olds. You're otherwise a reasonably well adjusted human being. That's gotta be devastating. You can't help it, you were born this way. There's no redemption arc here, the only thing you can do is just never ever give in to this feeling.
You are making some olympic mental gymnastics level assumptions about me there.
I know you can be attracted to others. What my libido does is only one component in how I feel about someone, and often the least useful. But by definition it is a component ace people don't need/get to worry about.
You definitely have no experience with the "urges" of a sex drive, because there is literally no way they can take control of a person to the extent they commit crimes before they realize what they are doing is wrong. That's not a thing.
How the fuck did you get "overpowering" from my expressing the ease at which they are suppressed?
If child molesters were somehow driven by a cerebral malfunction they can't do anything about, they'd be pitiable, not monsters worthy of death. They chose to do it.
I've had enough of this. Please find help.
For what?
What is it you fear I will do if I don't? Educate people more?
If I was what you seem to be suggesting I am, do you even know what "help" would be? I do.
yo, Just wanted to give you props for remaining far calmer in this discussion than I would've been able to.