When I was 14, I was horny as hell. My "sex juices" were most certainly flowing. I crushed on several girls in school but at that age I was far too awkward to even speak to them. Let alone know what to do with my frustration aside from masturbate.

Not allowing my libido to drive me to hurting someone is the easiest thing ever. It was then, still is today. (No, I do not feel a need to fuck a 14-year-old, I sleep with adults around my own age)

Nothing about the research into pedophilia suggests that their libidos work in some different way. If you're a moral person who doesn't want to hurt anyone, you will do your best not to. And not having sex with children is a pretty easy call to make.

I'll be the first to admit that I don't exactly think clearly when turned on, but it has never, ever, even in a years-long dry spell, led me to even slightly consider actually doing something with someone without their consent.

Nothing you can tell me can convince me that a person who doesn't want to hurt others, can be made to do so by their sex drive.

Especially considering you don't even know what having a libido feels like.

[–] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

You're just assuming I don't feel attraction. I do, I just don't feel attracted to children. Ace people aren't fucking robots you know.

You need to take the appropriate steps to make sure you don't either because it's only a matter of time before you end up acting on it. Normal people don't feel this overpowering pull you're describing and you need to understand that it's impossible to be virtuous while doing nothing to rid yourself of it.

[–] MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

You are making some olympic mental gymnastics level assumptions about me there.

I know you can be attracted to others. What my libido does is only one component in how I feel about someone, and often the least useful. But by definition it is a component ace people don't need/get to worry about.

You definitely have no experience with the "urges" of a sex drive, because there is literally no way they can take control of a person to the extent they commit crimes before they realize what they are doing is wrong. That's not a thing.

How the fuck did you get "overpowering" from my expressing the ease at which they are suppressed?

If child molesters were somehow driven by a cerebral malfunction they can't do anything about, they'd be pitiable, not monsters worthy of death. They chose to do it.

[–] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I've had enough of this. Please find help.

[–] MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

For what?

What is it you fear I will do if I don't? Educate people more?

If I was what you seem to be suggesting I am, do you even know what "help" would be? I do.

[–] DrFuggles@feddit.de 0 points 6 months ago

yo, Just wanted to give you props for remaining far calmer in this discussion than I would've been able to.

[–] DrFuggles@feddit.de 0 points 6 months ago

You are in the wrong side of this.Theres a German doc shedding some light on this issue:

https://youtu.be/vogs4NzqI3Q (money quote around 7:07), basically "half the perpetrators of child sexual abuse do not feel an attraction to kids. On the other hand, half the people who do feel attracted to kids do not become perpetrators."

Basically, half the people abusing kids don't do so because they're attracted to kids but presumably because they're easier victims whereas half the people getting attracted to life feel disgusted by themselves.

It's, for all that we know, as congenital as being straight or queer. Now, with queer and straight preference, you don't necessarily run into consent problems. Imagine you notice yourself being attracted to, idk, 15-year-olds. You're otherwise a reasonably well adjusted human being. That's gotta be devastating. You can't help it, you were born this way. There's no redemption arc here, the only thing you can do is just never ever give in to this feeling.