Own.

Upsides:

• Equity
• Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me
• Room for activities
• Big yard for family and pets
• If something needs maintaining, I don't have to depend on someone else to "get around to it."

Downsides:

• Property taxes are high (but almost all of it goes to the school district, and our district is really good, lots of focus on music and theater)
• Appliances, HVAC, fixtures, carpet: shit's expensive, yo
• If something needs maintaining, I can't just push it off on someone else
• Less flexibility if I want to move (thankfully, I don't, but who knows what tomorrow will bring anymore)

We've been homeowners for decades now, there's really no going back, but I don't miss renting at all. Full disclosure, our rental time was always in apartments, never in a single-family home. My in-laws rented a single-family for a few years after a foreclosure, and it didn't seem any different from our ownership. If I was to go back to renting, it would be that. No more apartments for me.