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Maybe I got this wrong but doesn't flirting imply consent because it's a bidirectional thing?
Well somebody needs to initiate it, and girls are terrible at telling you that they aren't interested, because they're scared ya might not take it well. Like rightfully so, there are many men like that. It's a thing many men struggle with, how to approach women without coming across as a creep. Like not even in a romantic setting, just in general.
As an autist, this simplifies into never approach women just to be safe because I suck at reading people and they won’t just tell me they rather not.
I don’t blame them but it’s a really shitty situation overall. How can you get better at flirting if you don’t practice/get feedback and accept rejection graciously?
Meeting my wife was nothing short of a miracle.
Sometimes you just gotta try to read the person your best, be friendly, and flirt. Make a compliment, just try to keep it respectful, and give it some time to set in with the other person. Just don't lead in with 'hey sugar tits, you looking fine today baby gurl' or something along those lines lol. Also don't lay it on too thick, maybe just a comment in passing, like nice outfit, looks amazing, love the pop of color or something, or wow, you are really good at xyz, how long have you been into that?
I can relate to the struggle, but sometimes you just gotta take a big gulp and try to be confident in yourself (just enough) to take that chance.
It needs to be deniable. Actually make it possible for both of you to just walk away without a second thought about it. Alternatively, ask directly (may backfire).
Good question! It made me challenge some of my assumptions.
Merriam Webster defines flirting as "to behave amorously without serious intent". Flirting, at its core, is a less direct, less intense way of letting someone know you're interested in them romantically and/or sexually.One can flirt with another person without it being reciprocal.
I made my previous comment as I used to dance and my ex is a dance instructor. Men attending dance lessons or going out to dance with solely amorous intent are the bane of many dance scenes.
Are they big guys?
Dammit, it took me a full minute to get the joke.