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[–] barsoap@lemm.ee -1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

but the problem is that we can’t know which men are evil.

It's very much possible with these things called emotional intelligence and empathy. Used in combination they allow you to walk in another's shoes for just a split second and see where their mind is.

[–] hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I don't think that any amount of empathy allows me to know if a stranger is dangerous.

[–] barsoap@lemm.ee 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

If it's alexithymia or such I hope you have trusted people in your life you can ask about random people.

On the flipside if that kind of thing is due to being on the schizo spectrum I can say with personal authority that yes it's very much possible: Figures it's not that I can't do it it's that I had a life-long habit of actively avoiding tuning into random people, the resonance being so strong that their neuroses get me all cramped up and swamped with random shit requiring clean-up after the fact. But deep dives aren't really necessary for a threat radar what you're primarily looking for is their attitude towards relating on eye level, whether there's an inferiority/superiority thing going on.

[–] BlackRoseAmongThorns@slrpnk.net 2 points 4 months ago

Not OP, but look, if someone, let's say a stranger, has nefarious motives, they have an incentive to fake their mannerisms, this means relying on your empathy and social intelligence alone is a mistake since they may be used as a vector of attack.

In order to be safe, one must make sure they are not harmed or endangered in any way, this includes avoiding certain situations with strangers.

Also, don't just randomly pathologize people just because you don't understand where they are coming from, even if done with no harm in mind, you will come off as very disrespectful.