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[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 42 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Not to steal the other comment but yeah a swiss army knife of a device that pays for things, browses the internet without running up the phone bill (and I can browse AND talk on the phone at the same time), has games and music, is a flashlight, etc.

But most importantly a name change. I thought it was impossible or extremely hard but it wasn't. Just write, pay $65, pay $12, send the documents to wherever, and that's it.

[–] NeatNit@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Was changing your name not possible back then, or were you just not aware that it's possible?

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah or that it was extremely complicated, and that no one in my life would respect my new name. Which, the latter, I was right about. I cut all ties I had (except family since I'm stuck with them currently) before changing my name, and eventually I will cut ties with family and receive mail in my name.

[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Out of curiosity, is it a gender change name or just a same gender name change? Still can't figure out why someone wouldn't respect either.

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I didn't change my gender, only the name. Many people are so transphobic that a cis person changing their name is just as "bad" as transitioning, and the rest think a cis person's life is perfect so they only change their name for attention and to be oppressed. I changed my name because it was ugly and othering and it only reminds me of childhood. I legitimately felt like I was stuck in someone else's body and could never get out and be myself.

[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I really can't see why people would oppose either, but had a gut feeling that trans changing their name get more flack for the gender change than the name, so for you to mention name specifically it had to be same gendered.

I hope you're happy with your new name, and that it helped you feel like yourself.

[–] pruneaue@infosec.pub 1 points 1 week ago

Changing your name is such a pain in the ass though. Like yeah the actual government papers are easy but damn your name is in so many places