See e.g. that recent discussion at https://lemm.ee/post/45248880, where the admins expressed a desire for OP to physically commit suicide, all based on an easily preventable misunderstanding about a situation that happened in a game.

You should probably bring us it to achieve

convincing lemm.ee, lemmy.zip, lemmy.dbzer0.com, discuss.tchcs.de to defederate lemmy.ml

Maybe as you recommend lemm.ee you can attach such a warning?

I do

https://old.reddit.com/r/RedditAlternatives/comments/1fmuk7o/post_to_address_the_usual_criticism_about_lemmy/

You can block entire servers and specific communities.

Instances to block to avoid political content

https://lemmygrad.ml/

https://hexbear.net/

The tricky aspect with lemmy.ml is that they host the most active open source communities. So recommending everyone to block them would probably make Lemmy as a whole appear hostile, as you need to choose between accessing open source communities and blocking a hostile instance.

To be fair, at this point in time, you might probably want to create a dedicated community to discuss this issue with the rest of the people (maybe !meanwhileongrad@sh.itjust.works) and agree on a potential action plan.

I feel like we've had this conversation two or three times in the last few weeks, it's not really solving the core issue.

[–] OpenStars@piefed.social 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Here's such a conversation with an admin at sh.itjust.works if you are interested: https://sh.itjust.works/comment/12051373, or with the mod of traditional_art@lemmy.ml https://discuss.online/post/12722075/11762479, and ofc there are many more. One conversation at a time, bringing up the logical points, condensing them, helping people know their options, etc.

blocking them is still one click away

Not... entirely, but yes an entire section dedicated to "hardcore tankies" helps!:-) I suppose that helps more for people brought in via Reddit, but not word-of-mouth recommendations, so if I am speaking of the latter then the burden is on me, and upon everyone else doing likewise, to "warn" their irl friends that they recommend to take a look at Lemmy. Which is why I am saying that it would be good to add automated labels. I think we are still waiting for a Lemmy upgrade though, that would allow for those? Or perhaps people are waiting specifically for 0.19.6 when Lemmy.World will upgrade, leading the way.

Lemmy.World naively might seem the most likely to attach a warning label to Lemmy.ml communities, seeing as e.g. they have defederated entirely from Hexbear.net, whereas so many other instances do not even do that much.

Though for myself, the longer this goes on the less faith I have that it will ever be fixed whilst remaining dependent upon the Lemmy.ml + lemmygrad.ml admins & devs to help accomplish the goals of bringing in more mainstream normies from the Western civilization that they so abhor and constantly ridicule. Why should they? They themselves do not want that. It is a harsh truth but we are on their platform, and that's that. We will receive what they deign to offer. Which is why I am trying now to help PieFed thrive, despite how far behind it is, and it would be great to see Sublinks arrive as well.

I feel like we've had this conversation two or three times in the last few weeks

You keep asking questions though... so I kept answering them:-P. I feel like we got some addditional clarity on your only focusing on the top 20 instances.

Little by little, progress is made. This issue is not entirely solvable though, using current methods available to us - e.g. the issue you mentioned that the desires of users to avoid being bullied are at cross-purposes with being able to access particularly the FOSS content such as !firefox@lemmy.ml. I will say that "accessing open source communities" isn't terribly hard - you don't even need an account for that, though indeed lacking one would cut someone off from participating by asking questions, posting, replying, and voting. Which is why something like a "community label" holds such appeal to me, and even more approaches such as PieFed's ability to enact user-initated user-blocking of custom user-specified instances without the need for the approval of an entire admin team and thereby the support of an entire community. It thereby democracizes blocking, making it available to anyone who wants it, which I for one think is awesome!?:-) Though the UI needs some polish, so I will focus on submitting bug reports to help with that.

[–] Blaze 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

You keep asking questions though… so I kept answering them:-P. I feel like we got some addditional clarity on your only focusing on the top 20 instances.

For me, writing things such as "many instances are having federation issues with LW' lacks nuance, and people less aware of the context could just read this with "well, the whole thing does not work anyway, I'll just quit this place", which is probably not the message we want to convey.

That's why I focus on the top 20, because that's where the vast majority of the userbase is, and in those instances, only aussie.zone really experiences federation issues due to LW size (pg.dev is a different issue, it's their own database that is corrupted)

Though for myself, the longer this goes on the less faith I have that it will ever be fixed whilst remaining dependent upon the Lemmy.ml + lemmygrad.ml admins & devs to help accomplish the goals of bringing in more mainstream normies from the Western civilization that they so abhor and constantly ridicule. Why should they? They themselves do not want that. It is a harsh truth but we are on their platform, and that’s that. We will receive what they deign to offer. Which is why I am trying now to help PieFed thrive, despite how far behind it is, and it would be great to see Sublinks arrive as well.

That's probably the consensus among the community. But as we all know, there are only so many people interested in developing Lemmy alternatives.

About the lemm.ee vs lemmy.cafe choice for instance suggestion, would you like to open a thread on https://piefed.social/c/fedigrow@lemm.ee ? That way we can have more people voicing their opinions on the matter.

[–] OpenStars@piefed.social 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I started gathering some thoughts to make a post - I had intended !newtolemmy@lemmy.ca but it could be cross-posted, or whatever - about ways to block an instance. I got stuck with Mbin but finally have what I need there. The thing is: I lack the knowledge of which Lemmy apps will allow you to implement user blocks - and I mean the full defederation kind, not just the mere "community blocking" that does not block the comment replies of users from those instances. Do you know more about that? If you could give me a paragraph or table or link to point to or some such, then perhaps this weekend I could try to write that post.

[–] Blaze 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

No idea about that point specifically unfortunately. My idea was more to discuss the instance choice rather than the blocking.

[–] OpenStars@piefed.social 1 points 3 weeks ago

At this point, the only way to implement blocking is to switch instances, it would seem. Or at least get an app, though that is the part that I know the least about. I switched instances myself specifically for this feature - and we've been saying how superb Discuss.Online is even, all the more notable for a smaller instance! - but I'm not sure how many others would think similarly. Still, they could be told that it's an option. Or perhaps !newtolemmy@lemmy.ca is almost dead at this point, with so few posts? Then again it's not the number that matters, if the content is relevant.