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Do lesbians have a concept of Top and Bottom? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by stoicmaverick@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[–] Repelle@lemmy.world 40 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I’m very much a lesbian and can confirm we are flatlanders. I get left and right, front and back, but top and bottom? Completely foreign concepts.

Seriously though. It seems to me very popular among young lesbians to talk about tops and bottoms, but I’m a bit older (around 40) and that was never really a thing for me or the people around me.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 25 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Fascinating. Are you able to rotate axially parallel to your allowed dimensions of travel, or does this require some degree of bi-curiosity to accomplish?

[–] Repelle@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago

I can no more do this than you can freely move through a fourth spatial dimension

[–] gondwana 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I read this in Mr. Spock's voice.

[–] frozenpopsicle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

This is awesome! I am adding in bridge sci-fi noises. Data also works.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 2 points 4 weeks ago

That seems logical and stuff.