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Do lesbians have a concept of Top and Bottom? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by stoicmaverick@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[–] AlternateRoute@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

If you do a little googling it is easy to confirm but there is the sexual definition like you where referring to and then there is just the more general relationship definition which is basically the Top is the more dominate / assertive partner and the bottom is the more passive partner.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

If you "do a little googling" you can confirm anything you want wether it's true or not. That's why I came here to ask actual lesbian, and lesbian adjacent people.

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 3 points 1 month ago

Plus, there's a real community aspect, which is nice.

[+] AlternateRoute@lemmy.ca -8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

So you asked a completely unverifiable public forum, full of users with ambiguous alts and user names and expect a BETTER answer?

You must be new to the internet.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 11 points 1 month ago

Wow. You sound like the kind of person who picks a fight with a stranger on the internet, declare yourself the winner, goes through their profile to down vote their last hundred posts, and goes to bed at 6am, knowing that you're the best.

To address what was only a question in the technical sense, I ask this here, because I like being able to respond to people's stories, and ask follow-up questions, which I can't do reading a three year old article on an ad supported medium which was probably written to give to Grandma to explain why her favorite granddaughter never brings any boys over for Thanksgiving.

Now quit being a jerk.

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 7 points 1 month ago

No, they just believe in the honesty of people. Well, that and they probably also figured that having an aggregate of answers and the upvote/downvote system, they can ferret out a response.

[–] half_built_pyramids@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

Like a Nintendo Switch