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It's a different subculture than the ones you know.
I will bet you one shiny silver nickle it's not.
It's nice that praise kinks are starting to get accepted (because man, they sure werent taken seriously for a long damn time), but to characterize this as "a lot" of the bdsm community is just comically wrong. It'd be like saying "a lot" of the community is into heavy rubber or petplay or ABDL - all very popular, but still minute fractions of the broad community.
Oh BDSM in general isn't like that, sure, but I'm in a submissive focused discord and there are many people there who have lifestyle dynamics similar to the one in the post. Like yeah the poster doesn't know what they're talking about but those kinds of dynamics certainly do exist. They're not something I'm comfortable with, self discipline has to come from the self and to me having discipline for life things like that come from your partner enforcing that on you feels like a crutch that I'm not ok with personally, but ykinmk and all that.
It's honestly kind of interesting to me, I think dynamics fall onto a spectrum of being controlled to being taken care of. I mean that in a general sense, not specific things like aftercare. Like yes caring for and about your partner is an important part of any relationship but that end of the spectrum falls more under parental care in my mind. I'm certainly no expert, lifestyle dynamics aren't for me, but I like lurking and observing because I think it's neat.
That..... Was their entire point?
Because the OP started with "BDSM IS" which reads as is "all of BDSM is like this" regardless of whether OP meant to generalize or not.
First comment then said "BDSM is not all like that"
Yeah, I said it was a different subculture... Then the dude was like no it's not... Then I was like yeah, not bdsm in general, a subculture... Hope you're caught up now buddy
Sorry not usually this much of a dick but I lose patience with those with people who won't read