Ladies and gentlemen, this style of exchange is why Lemmy is substantially better than Reddit, how Reddit was even as far back as 2012. Or any other online platform. Online civility is a lost art on most platforms. Instead of calling me some uneducated cuck and wishing my children die in a house fire, Sims provided resources, and even suggests that reading these resources when I have time is totally fine, rather than calling me an uneducated fuck stain for not having read them earlier.

Thanks for being a cool human, my dude

[–] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Tbf my levels of patience vary a lot lol. I would never berate anyone for not knowing something, no one knows everything, and we all learn something new every day (E: and also in different ways), though if someone clearly doesn't want to hear anything that doesn't confirm their bias I won't waste my time and might call them out for not wanting to know, and be blunt about that since I think some people need the rude awakening. On the other hand, if someone is already taking their own steps to explore outside of and challenge their bias, and I happen to know something about the topic or have a relevant resource, I'm more than happy to help. So the credit is yours as much as it is mine, but thank you.

On a side note - comrade(s) is a great gender neutral alternative to both ladies and gentlemen, and dude.

[–] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Your views align pretty closely with mine: ignorance isn't a cardinal sin, but willful ignorance is.

The fact that you're taking an educational approach rather than coming after me with a board that has a nail sticking out of it is refreshing for online communities. More people need to just chill.

On dude: sorry, my age is showing - lexicon needs an update and I haven't got there yet but I'm working on it

[–] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

Yeah, it's an important distinction to make. And I have to agree, it would be nice to have more exchanges like this, but with the state of the world it isn't really surprising that people are generally angrier, be it for good reason or bad (anti-racist vs racist, for example), it's when people are mostly on the same page that the animosity really confuses me lol. The last part goes back to the top - we're all learning all the time, the important thing is to stay open to it and grow from it.

[–] Shizrak@sh.itjust.works -2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Dude is just as neutral as comrade. It's only your own preconceptions giving it gender.

[–] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Go ask a straight man how many dudes he's slept with recently and get back to me..

[–] Shizrak@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 months ago

And ask the same straight man how many comrades he's slept with recently and receive the same answer.