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This is so situational. Obviously if someone asks you for something and you say no upfront, then ya I agree with you. Sometimes we don't have a choice who we rely on though.
Children are an easy example. Your children rely on you for everything and there's no one else they can rely on. Sick parents? Siblings that don't have spouses? You can't just shed yourself of all responsibilities or obligations in this life, even when they're hard or near impossible for you to do. That's just reality.
You can't shed all responsibilities or obligations, but most of them you can. In the end, it only depends on what your goals are. Do you want healthy, happy children? Then you'll probably have to do something for that. If not though? Then you don't. You can get by with a lot of "what if I just don't?"
Lol sure, you could neglect your children, that's always an option. Makes you a bad person though. Potentially a criminal too, depends on the exact nature of the neglect.
In the case of children i would say that having them in the first place(in majority of cases) is a promise that they can rely on you so it is kind of a bad example
Exactly. I was talking about just not having children if you know you can't properly take care of them. Result is no responsibility/obligations. It must've been known beforehand that one is unreliable, and thus this needs to be taken into account for the decision to have kids.